How to Deal With Teachers That Hate Your Guts
Realize that if you've been a difficult person, it is going to be tough to undo that image in your teacher's head., Work out whether your teacher is a second chances teacher or someone who thinks you're unchangeable and that your true colors are...
Step-by-Step Guide
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Step 1: Realize that if you've been a difficult person
This doesn't mean it's impossible but it does mean you have your work cut out for you and there's nothing like a challenge to give spice to your purpose in life.
See it from the teacher's perspective––would you trust you after the misbehaving, slacking off, rudeness or unwillingness to helpful? It can be hard to believe a leopard will change its spots overnight.
However, in your favor is the fact that on the whole, teachers do expect students to keep learning from their mistakes and improving. -
Step 2: it is going to be tough to undo that image in your teacher's head.
In the former case, you should have no problems convincing the teacher that you've turned over a new leaf, provided you truly mean it.
In the latter case, you are going to have to provide many actions that speak louder than words examples and still some before that teacher will feel that you've improved in your ways. , They have personal problems, family lives, deadlines and other students to deal with.
By remembering that they're human too, you can stop demonizing the teacher and start to look for connecting points that might win you an in with the teacher.
This doesn't mean you have to like the teacher––that's not the point.
It simply means finding ways to show to the teacher that you are considerate and respectful of their needs and wants too.
After trying to mend bridges, if your teacher still appears to dislike you, consider that your teacher may just be having a bad day or is going through a tough time at the moment.
Either way, it's a good idea to not ask them what is going on as this can make them worse. , Most "mean" teachers are unhappy people or have had bad experiences with students in the past and are protecting themselves from future bad interactions.
Sometimes it has nothing to do with you.
They might feel that none of the students care about them, so try to be nice.
If your teacher seems miserable whether you are around them or not, chances are that you are not the problem. , If you've done your best to make them like you and it doesn't work, grit your teeth and try to survive until the course is done.
Once you are through with the course, you could talk to the principal to make sure you won't have this teacher again. , Maybe it was that pin you put on your teacher's chair, or that time you forgot your homework three times in a row.
Perhaps you talked back often in class or said mean things.
Apologize to your teacher.
At least try to look like you mean it, and you may be forgiven.
And remember to say what you did or said. "Sorry miss" is not as effective as "I'm sorry for forgetting my homework three times in a row, it won't happen again". , Maybe you call out too much, or maybe your homework is always terrible.
Perhaps you play up too much in class or give more cheek than anyone has the goodwill to cope with.
Put yourself in your teacher's shoes.
Are you really that annoying? If the answer is yes, it is a good idea to break your bad habits.
Let the teacher notice you doing some good for a change.
Try to do this in as many good ways as you can possibly can, such as keeping quiet when this is expected, offering to help out and keeping your smart witted comments under control.
Stop chit chatting in class and actually get the assignments turned in when expected.
Put away the slingshots and stop chewing gum.
Make an effort to actually listen.
Sit near the back of the class if you can't tone down the giggles or annoying behaviors.
At least this will put some distance between you both. , Does she give the ripped-up homework an A+ and yours an F-? Does she shout "WHAT?!" whenever you ask a question? Remember that you are quite possibly just exaggerating, and that your teacher doesn't really hate you.
You need to get the facts straight before complaining that your teacher hates you for no reason at all.
Gather factual evidence of things your teacher does that you consider single you out for unfair or unkind treatment.
Note the action, the day and the occasion.
Do this over a week or so, to build up a realistic picture.
Do you still feel that your teacher is being unreasonable? If not, shape up by reading the suggestions below for being a model student.
However, if you still feel the teacher is being unfair toward you on an objective assessment, move to the next step.
Look at how you are presenting yourself.
If you are not exaggerating, and your teacher really does not treat you the same as others, your teacher may be doing this because he or she is stereotyping you.
Come on, everyone does it.
Maybe you wear ripped clothes, or maybe you look like a dumb blonde.
Either way, your teacher shouldn't be giving you lower grades or treating you with no respect because of this.
Consider talking through those responsible for you, or even lodging a complaint.
If this is becoming a serious problem, get your parents or guardian to have a chat with the teacher.
If that doesn't work, talk with the principal. , This may be sir or ma'am ("Yes, sir.").
Or, it might be Ms., Mrs. or Mr.
Don't act like you know better than them.
Be punctual at all times.
Teachers love students who turn up on time and are settled and ready to engage as class starts.
Be in uniform (if you are supposed to be).
This is one thing you don't need to flout around strict teachers, it's just not worth the angst.
Keep quiet.
Teachers have a hard time with a loud class.
Pay close attention to the teacher while ignoring other students who might distract you.
To show your attention, participate a lot and always raise your hand whenever the teacher has a question.
Don't seem to be ignoring them as this just gets teachers in a bad mood.
Don't be on websites that you are not supposed to if you are in a computer class. #**Don't play laptop games in class
- that is a pet peeve of most teachers.
Act as if you're enjoying the class. , Remember your homework.
Teachers hate students that always make an excuse and never bring their homework.
So make sure that it's in your bag after you finish at the night before.
Turn in all assignments on time.
As said on step 6, teachers hate students who never bring their assignments or homework or are late to turn them up.
Ask the teacher for a list of her/his favorite books she/he read at your age.
Make the teacher a card and just leave it on their desk.
Tell them you appreciate that they are your teacher.
Show appreciation.
Drop a few compliments such as, "I like your teaching techniques, they're so helpful to understand!" No matter how moody your teacher is, he/she will still appreciate your thoughtfulness. -
Step 3: Work out whether your teacher is a second chances teacher or someone who thinks you're unchangeable and that your true colors are stuck on the naughty-o-meter.
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Step 4: Remember that teachers are human beings too.
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Step 5: Have some compassion.
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Step 6: Remember that you won't have this teacher forever.
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Step 7: If it was something you said or did Think back to what it is that you've said or done to the teacher.
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Step 8: If you are just plain annoying Try to find out what is it about you that annoys your teacher.
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Step 9: If you have no idea why the teacher dislikes you Think about why you think that your teacher hates you.
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Step 10: Become a Model Student Address the teacher respectfully.
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Step 11: Help the teacher with whatever he/she needs such as carrying materials to her class Have all the supplies you need with you for every class period.
Detailed Guide
This doesn't mean it's impossible but it does mean you have your work cut out for you and there's nothing like a challenge to give spice to your purpose in life.
See it from the teacher's perspective––would you trust you after the misbehaving, slacking off, rudeness or unwillingness to helpful? It can be hard to believe a leopard will change its spots overnight.
However, in your favor is the fact that on the whole, teachers do expect students to keep learning from their mistakes and improving.
In the former case, you should have no problems convincing the teacher that you've turned over a new leaf, provided you truly mean it.
In the latter case, you are going to have to provide many actions that speak louder than words examples and still some before that teacher will feel that you've improved in your ways. , They have personal problems, family lives, deadlines and other students to deal with.
By remembering that they're human too, you can stop demonizing the teacher and start to look for connecting points that might win you an in with the teacher.
This doesn't mean you have to like the teacher––that's not the point.
It simply means finding ways to show to the teacher that you are considerate and respectful of their needs and wants too.
After trying to mend bridges, if your teacher still appears to dislike you, consider that your teacher may just be having a bad day or is going through a tough time at the moment.
Either way, it's a good idea to not ask them what is going on as this can make them worse. , Most "mean" teachers are unhappy people or have had bad experiences with students in the past and are protecting themselves from future bad interactions.
Sometimes it has nothing to do with you.
They might feel that none of the students care about them, so try to be nice.
If your teacher seems miserable whether you are around them or not, chances are that you are not the problem. , If you've done your best to make them like you and it doesn't work, grit your teeth and try to survive until the course is done.
Once you are through with the course, you could talk to the principal to make sure you won't have this teacher again. , Maybe it was that pin you put on your teacher's chair, or that time you forgot your homework three times in a row.
Perhaps you talked back often in class or said mean things.
Apologize to your teacher.
At least try to look like you mean it, and you may be forgiven.
And remember to say what you did or said. "Sorry miss" is not as effective as "I'm sorry for forgetting my homework three times in a row, it won't happen again". , Maybe you call out too much, or maybe your homework is always terrible.
Perhaps you play up too much in class or give more cheek than anyone has the goodwill to cope with.
Put yourself in your teacher's shoes.
Are you really that annoying? If the answer is yes, it is a good idea to break your bad habits.
Let the teacher notice you doing some good for a change.
Try to do this in as many good ways as you can possibly can, such as keeping quiet when this is expected, offering to help out and keeping your smart witted comments under control.
Stop chit chatting in class and actually get the assignments turned in when expected.
Put away the slingshots and stop chewing gum.
Make an effort to actually listen.
Sit near the back of the class if you can't tone down the giggles or annoying behaviors.
At least this will put some distance between you both. , Does she give the ripped-up homework an A+ and yours an F-? Does she shout "WHAT?!" whenever you ask a question? Remember that you are quite possibly just exaggerating, and that your teacher doesn't really hate you.
You need to get the facts straight before complaining that your teacher hates you for no reason at all.
Gather factual evidence of things your teacher does that you consider single you out for unfair or unkind treatment.
Note the action, the day and the occasion.
Do this over a week or so, to build up a realistic picture.
Do you still feel that your teacher is being unreasonable? If not, shape up by reading the suggestions below for being a model student.
However, if you still feel the teacher is being unfair toward you on an objective assessment, move to the next step.
Look at how you are presenting yourself.
If you are not exaggerating, and your teacher really does not treat you the same as others, your teacher may be doing this because he or she is stereotyping you.
Come on, everyone does it.
Maybe you wear ripped clothes, or maybe you look like a dumb blonde.
Either way, your teacher shouldn't be giving you lower grades or treating you with no respect because of this.
Consider talking through those responsible for you, or even lodging a complaint.
If this is becoming a serious problem, get your parents or guardian to have a chat with the teacher.
If that doesn't work, talk with the principal. , This may be sir or ma'am ("Yes, sir.").
Or, it might be Ms., Mrs. or Mr.
Don't act like you know better than them.
Be punctual at all times.
Teachers love students who turn up on time and are settled and ready to engage as class starts.
Be in uniform (if you are supposed to be).
This is one thing you don't need to flout around strict teachers, it's just not worth the angst.
Keep quiet.
Teachers have a hard time with a loud class.
Pay close attention to the teacher while ignoring other students who might distract you.
To show your attention, participate a lot and always raise your hand whenever the teacher has a question.
Don't seem to be ignoring them as this just gets teachers in a bad mood.
Don't be on websites that you are not supposed to if you are in a computer class. #**Don't play laptop games in class
- that is a pet peeve of most teachers.
Act as if you're enjoying the class. , Remember your homework.
Teachers hate students that always make an excuse and never bring their homework.
So make sure that it's in your bag after you finish at the night before.
Turn in all assignments on time.
As said on step 6, teachers hate students who never bring their assignments or homework or are late to turn them up.
Ask the teacher for a list of her/his favorite books she/he read at your age.
Make the teacher a card and just leave it on their desk.
Tell them you appreciate that they are your teacher.
Show appreciation.
Drop a few compliments such as, "I like your teaching techniques, they're so helpful to understand!" No matter how moody your teacher is, he/she will still appreciate your thoughtfulness.
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