How to Avoid Being Clingy During School Years
Get confidence., Identify why you cling to this person., Develop new friendships., Keep yourself busy., Be individual.
Step-by-Step Guide
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Step 1: Get confidence.
People who cling to others usually don't have enough self confidence.
They feel that they need to "cling" to people, in order to obtain strong friendships.
This is not true, and in order to avoid being clingy, you need to understand that.
Make a list identifying all of your good qualities, and put it in a secret place.
Avoid including "outside" qualities like your appearance, material possessions, money, etc.
This should be a list of things on the inside of you (like your sense of humor, your kind heart, your knowledge, etc.) Know that these are the things people like about you, and that you can get friends who like you for who you are. -
Step 2: Identify why you cling to this person.
Think of that particular person that you usually cling to.
Why do you feel like you need to cling to them? Are they more popular, richer, prettier? What makes you need to be friends with them, and spend time with them every minute? Remind yourself that none of these things matter...or better yet, that you actually can possess them if you work hard. , Get to know other people by joining clubs, and trying new things.
Try to have an open mind, and talk to all sorts of people.
Anyone could be a good candidate for a friend.
Having more friends can help you avoid clinging to just one.
It'll also boost your self confidence, as mentioned in the first step. , If you feel yourself wanting to be with that person all the time, despite these steps, try to keep yourself busy.
Hang out with other friends, read a book, enjoy the fresh air.
Remind yourself that you don't have to hang out with this person all the time to be a good person. , Try to express yourself in clothing choices, your locker, and more.
This will help you develop your own personal style, instead of relying and clinging on others. -
Step 3: Develop new friendships.
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Step 4: Keep yourself busy.
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Step 5: Be individual.
Detailed Guide
People who cling to others usually don't have enough self confidence.
They feel that they need to "cling" to people, in order to obtain strong friendships.
This is not true, and in order to avoid being clingy, you need to understand that.
Make a list identifying all of your good qualities, and put it in a secret place.
Avoid including "outside" qualities like your appearance, material possessions, money, etc.
This should be a list of things on the inside of you (like your sense of humor, your kind heart, your knowledge, etc.) Know that these are the things people like about you, and that you can get friends who like you for who you are.
Think of that particular person that you usually cling to.
Why do you feel like you need to cling to them? Are they more popular, richer, prettier? What makes you need to be friends with them, and spend time with them every minute? Remind yourself that none of these things matter...or better yet, that you actually can possess them if you work hard. , Get to know other people by joining clubs, and trying new things.
Try to have an open mind, and talk to all sorts of people.
Anyone could be a good candidate for a friend.
Having more friends can help you avoid clinging to just one.
It'll also boost your self confidence, as mentioned in the first step. , If you feel yourself wanting to be with that person all the time, despite these steps, try to keep yourself busy.
Hang out with other friends, read a book, enjoy the fresh air.
Remind yourself that you don't have to hang out with this person all the time to be a good person. , Try to express yourself in clothing choices, your locker, and more.
This will help you develop your own personal style, instead of relying and clinging on others.
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