How to Be a Caring Sister
Love your siblings unconditionally., Respect your siblings., Resolve conflicts before they get out hand., Tell your siblings often why they matter to you., Forget about the past., Make time to go to their events., Be a true friend., Be a helpful...
Step-by-Step Guide
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Step 1: Love your siblings unconditionally.
Love them for who they are and for what they believe in.
Love them in spite of the things they do and the ways they are that don't necessarily agree with your viewpoints or expectations in life.
Your siblings are unique individuals, just as you are too. -
Step 2: Respect your siblings.
One of the main ways to show someone you respect them is to listen to their point of view.
Whether you agree with them or not, your siblings should be able to have their own views.Behave civilly toward them and speak nicely to your brother or sister.
Be polite and considerate of your siblings. , If you have a conflict with your sister or brother, work it out in a calm and respectful manner, remembering that both of you need to get along at the end of the day.
Seek compromises on the things you don't see eye to eye about.
If a conflict arises between you and your sibling, stay calm.
Manage your stress in the situation as fast as you can.
Control your emotions in conflicts and pay attention to the feelings of your sibling.If your sister steals your favorite dress then loses it, instead of screaming at her, try calmly saying, “I would appreciate it if you would please ask me first before you borrow my clothes.
Can you please repay me for the dress? It was my favorite.” , Be proud of your siblings and notice their accomplishments, their strengths and all of their virtues.
Let your sister know how great she's doing being a sister, mother, daughter, and friend.
Remind your brother how wonderful a brother, father, son, and friend he is, too.
When your brother gets into his first choice college express how it makes you feel, “I am so proud of you for getting into such a competitive college.
You have worked so hard and are going to do great there.” , Forgive yourself for what you have done to your sister or brother in the past and forgive them for what they have done.
There is no point in holding a grudge over something that has already happened and there is no point beating yourself up about something you did a long time ago.
Start things over with a clean slate., Although you have to see your sibling at certain events and family dinners, don’t just make that the minimum.
Show up to your sister’s soccer game or your brother's spelling bee.
Show you care about your siblings by making an effort to support them at their events., Have your sister’s back, be loyal to her and support her in the face of her adversities.
Stick up for your brother and let him know if there are people he cannot trust or rely on.
Let your siblings know that they can rely on you, no matter what.
Let your siblings know you're just a phone call away and that you're always there to listen: "If you ever need to talk you can just call me.
I am always here for you, no matter what you need."
If your brother experiences difficulties, give him a helping hand.
If he has trouble with his studies or work assignments, see whether you can help out, even if it's just a listening ear.
If your sister is having problems with her intimate relationship, be a non-judgmental listener and give her all of your support.
Even if they don’t ask for help, reach out, “It looks like you are struggling with your math homework, can I help you?” , If your sibling could benefit from something you have that they don’t have, offer to share it with them.
Unless they have given you good reason to not trust them with your things, you should feel good about sharing with them. , Although it might be tempting to tell your parents all the dirt you have on your brother or sister, keep it to yourself.
Unless the secret is serious and your sibling is in danger, don’t be a tattle-tale.
Being a caring sister means thinking of your sibling first and if getting them in trouble is not necessary then don’t tell., The best memories are those made in the moments enjoyed together, the fun experiences you have that make you both laugh and smile.
Go out and do something fun together.
Don’t spend too much time discussing serious things, especially if you disagree on the topics — such as politics or religion.
Have fun conversations and let your humor shine through when you talk to your siblings., As much as you might want to complain to your mom about the big fight you got in with your sister at the mall or how you can’t stand your brother’s new girlfriend, keep it to yourself.
Don’t gossip about your brother or sister to your friends or family.
This will prevent harsh feelings and misunderstandings., Show you are a caring sister by making the relationships with your siblings a priority.
Some siblings never speak and some hang out every day, it is up to you to determine what your relationship with your siblings is going to be like.
Put effort into spending time with and talking with your brother or sister to be a caring sister., You can only control your own actions, and it is possible that, no matter what you do, there will be times when your sibling won't be helpful, or honest, or behave toward you the way you behave toward them.
Being a good sister should not be conditional — you should still put effort into being a caring sister, even if your sibling doesn't return the kindness.
Keep in mind that younger siblings may need more time to grow into these types of mature behaviors. , You'll have been through much together in life, and you both understand each other better than many people do.
Stay in touch as often as possible throughout life and make plans to spend time together when you're no longer living under the same roof.
No matter where you are, no matter how many miles apart, you're always connected by the heart. , Although deep talks with your sister are great, casually texting her regularly is a great way to be a caring sister.
If something hilarious happens to you in the middle of the day, text your brother about it so he knows you were thinking about him.
Snapchat your siblings the funny videos you send to your friends.
Include your siblings in your day-to-day life by using technology to show you care about them. -
Step 3: Resolve conflicts before they get out hand.
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Step 4: Tell your siblings often why they matter to you.
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Step 5: Forget about the past.
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Step 6: Make time to go to their events.
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Step 7: Be a true friend.
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Step 8: Be a helpful sister.
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Step 9: Share with your sister or brother.
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Step 10: Don’t tell on your siblings.
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Step 11: Have fun together.
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Step 12: Don’t talk about your siblings behind their back.
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Step 13: Put effort into the relationship.
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Step 14: Expect nothing in return.
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Step 15: Aim to grow old together.
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Step 16: Text them regularly.
Detailed Guide
Love them for who they are and for what they believe in.
Love them in spite of the things they do and the ways they are that don't necessarily agree with your viewpoints or expectations in life.
Your siblings are unique individuals, just as you are too.
One of the main ways to show someone you respect them is to listen to their point of view.
Whether you agree with them or not, your siblings should be able to have their own views.Behave civilly toward them and speak nicely to your brother or sister.
Be polite and considerate of your siblings. , If you have a conflict with your sister or brother, work it out in a calm and respectful manner, remembering that both of you need to get along at the end of the day.
Seek compromises on the things you don't see eye to eye about.
If a conflict arises between you and your sibling, stay calm.
Manage your stress in the situation as fast as you can.
Control your emotions in conflicts and pay attention to the feelings of your sibling.If your sister steals your favorite dress then loses it, instead of screaming at her, try calmly saying, “I would appreciate it if you would please ask me first before you borrow my clothes.
Can you please repay me for the dress? It was my favorite.” , Be proud of your siblings and notice their accomplishments, their strengths and all of their virtues.
Let your sister know how great she's doing being a sister, mother, daughter, and friend.
Remind your brother how wonderful a brother, father, son, and friend he is, too.
When your brother gets into his first choice college express how it makes you feel, “I am so proud of you for getting into such a competitive college.
You have worked so hard and are going to do great there.” , Forgive yourself for what you have done to your sister or brother in the past and forgive them for what they have done.
There is no point in holding a grudge over something that has already happened and there is no point beating yourself up about something you did a long time ago.
Start things over with a clean slate., Although you have to see your sibling at certain events and family dinners, don’t just make that the minimum.
Show up to your sister’s soccer game or your brother's spelling bee.
Show you care about your siblings by making an effort to support them at their events., Have your sister’s back, be loyal to her and support her in the face of her adversities.
Stick up for your brother and let him know if there are people he cannot trust or rely on.
Let your siblings know that they can rely on you, no matter what.
Let your siblings know you're just a phone call away and that you're always there to listen: "If you ever need to talk you can just call me.
I am always here for you, no matter what you need."
If your brother experiences difficulties, give him a helping hand.
If he has trouble with his studies or work assignments, see whether you can help out, even if it's just a listening ear.
If your sister is having problems with her intimate relationship, be a non-judgmental listener and give her all of your support.
Even if they don’t ask for help, reach out, “It looks like you are struggling with your math homework, can I help you?” , If your sibling could benefit from something you have that they don’t have, offer to share it with them.
Unless they have given you good reason to not trust them with your things, you should feel good about sharing with them. , Although it might be tempting to tell your parents all the dirt you have on your brother or sister, keep it to yourself.
Unless the secret is serious and your sibling is in danger, don’t be a tattle-tale.
Being a caring sister means thinking of your sibling first and if getting them in trouble is not necessary then don’t tell., The best memories are those made in the moments enjoyed together, the fun experiences you have that make you both laugh and smile.
Go out and do something fun together.
Don’t spend too much time discussing serious things, especially if you disagree on the topics — such as politics or religion.
Have fun conversations and let your humor shine through when you talk to your siblings., As much as you might want to complain to your mom about the big fight you got in with your sister at the mall or how you can’t stand your brother’s new girlfriend, keep it to yourself.
Don’t gossip about your brother or sister to your friends or family.
This will prevent harsh feelings and misunderstandings., Show you are a caring sister by making the relationships with your siblings a priority.
Some siblings never speak and some hang out every day, it is up to you to determine what your relationship with your siblings is going to be like.
Put effort into spending time with and talking with your brother or sister to be a caring sister., You can only control your own actions, and it is possible that, no matter what you do, there will be times when your sibling won't be helpful, or honest, or behave toward you the way you behave toward them.
Being a good sister should not be conditional — you should still put effort into being a caring sister, even if your sibling doesn't return the kindness.
Keep in mind that younger siblings may need more time to grow into these types of mature behaviors. , You'll have been through much together in life, and you both understand each other better than many people do.
Stay in touch as often as possible throughout life and make plans to spend time together when you're no longer living under the same roof.
No matter where you are, no matter how many miles apart, you're always connected by the heart. , Although deep talks with your sister are great, casually texting her regularly is a great way to be a caring sister.
If something hilarious happens to you in the middle of the day, text your brother about it so he knows you were thinking about him.
Snapchat your siblings the funny videos you send to your friends.
Include your siblings in your day-to-day life by using technology to show you care about them.
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