How to Include the Father of the Groom

Step-by-Step Guide

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   Step 1: Start by asking the father of groom for advice on any traditions that he may know of from that side of the family.

   Possibly ask him how he planned his wedding and possibly ask his advice if there was anything he would have done differently.
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   Step 2: Include the father and mother of the groom on the invitations if they are helping pay a significant amount for the wedding itself.

   Their names can easily be worked into the wording of the invite to acknowledge their contribution. , This can be as large or as small of an event as you would like, but make sure that it falls within his budget, and that you don't go overboard. ,,, While his mother will generally be the one to put his corsage on, his father can help with cuff links or any other special accessory.
   
   Make sure that the photographer is around to snap pictures of both. , Men love the "guy" shots from the big day. ,, He could say a prayer or do a reading.
   
   He could also accompany the groom's mother up to light a unity candle with the purpose of showing that the two families are uniting. , This is a sign of respect to them. ,, In turn, make your own toast thanking each of the parents.
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   Step 3: Have your groom or the both of you discuss with his father about the responsibilities of the rehearsal dinner.

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   Step 4: Ask that the father of the groom be available to run errands for his son if the need arises

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   Step 5: and include him in the preparation festivities.

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   Step 6: Order a unique and special boutonnière for the groom's father.

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   Step 7: Let the father of the groom help the groom get his tux on and possibly straighten his tie.

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   Step 8: Include family photos before and after the ceremony that include him and the groom's mother

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   Step 9: but be sure and get photographs of just the groom and his father as well as siblings

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    Step 10: particularly male siblings.

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    Step 11: Include a special thank you or notation in the program thanking the father of the groom.

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    Step 12: Let your groom's father be included in the ceremony if at all possible.

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    Step 13: Consider taking both sets of parents their pieces of cake right after you cut them from the cake.

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    Step 14: Think about adding a slide show

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    Step 15: and be sure to include photographs of the groom when he was a child that include his father in the shot with him.

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    Step 16: Let the father of the groom make a toast.

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