How to Spot Verbal Abuse by Adults and Kids

Step-by-Step Guide

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   Step 1: Look for words that insult

   Abuse is to offend another either by words or actions, it could be the tone of their voice, it could be a lack of patience or even the refusal to listen to your side of the problem.
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   Step 2: criticize

   If someone is withholding, this can be the most painful abuse of all.
   
   Withholding of response, withholding of reaction, or just a general don’t care attitude cuts deep.
   
   Ann Landers was once asked “What is the most painful insult”? Her answer was to totally ignore a person. , Am I being treated correctly? , Dishonesty is not respectful nor is a lack of privacy. , Is the person trying to cause you to do something by using threats or by degrading you? Do they tell you that all you do is inferior or find fault with it or you. , Abuse is to treat with irreverence or to infringe on your rights.
   
   This includes disrespect with words, being cursed at or addressing with rude language. , Is someone talking to you with sarcasm or using a mocking bitter laugh.
   
   Are they speaking bitterly or using a cutting expression.
   
   Some say sarcasm is a step away from violence. , Do I hear a person using harsh insults? For example, you are fat, stupid, weird, useless, or a loser. , It means to be given to the use of vulgar, coarse, or abusive language; being foul-mouthed.
   
   For example, are they calling you names like idiot, buffoon, clown, or moron? Avoid someone who makes you feel low or stupid. , Do not allow yourself to be treated with contempt or disrespect.
   
   Do not accept that you are too sensitive or allow yourself to be shamed by others. , Verbal abuse is emotional injury caused by another person’s tongue. , If someone is trying to make you feel guilty, you are being manipulated.
   
   You should refuse to accept the guilt.
   
   If after this your eyes are open to someone abusing you, or if you are abusing someone, you may need to SEEK PROFESSIONAL HELP.
   
   Sometimes confronting a verbal abuser can make the verbal turn to physical abuse.
   
   We can change our self and can learn to not react or to not practice verbal abuse ourselves.
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   Step 3: condemn or complain.

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   Step 4: Examine the facts.

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   Step 5: Ask yourself this question.

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   Step 6: Figure out if you are being lied to.

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   Step 7: Spot demeaning remarks.

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   Step 8: Ask yourself if you are being violated with words.

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   Step 9: Understand Sarcasm.

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    Step 10: Don't believe it.

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    Step 11: Learn the meaning of scurrilous.

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    Step 12: Educate yourself about opprobrium

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    Step 13: contemptuous reproaches.

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    Step 14: Open your mind to learning about verbal abuse.

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    Step 15: Stop manipulation.

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