How to Deal With Party Crashers

Step-by-Step Guide

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   Step 1: Consider how you wish to handle the situation before you speak to the party crashers.

   Introduce yourself as the host or hostess of the party.
   
   You may wish to do this with a few level-headed friends who can help provide support. , Do they seem calm, friendly, intoxicated or aggressive? How they look and act will be important to your handling of the situation. ,, Did they overhear others discussing it at another event? Did they just happen to walk by? , This information can also help you to know whether to expect others. , If the party crashers are friendly and you would like them to stay, all you need to do is make them feel welcome.
   
   If you would like them to leave, read on for some suggestions about how to do that. , Use non-confrontational but confident body language while doing this.
   
   You are not attempting to start a fight. , If they appeared intoxicated, threatening or aggressive, make sure you have friends to back you up and that someone is able to call for the police in case of trouble. , Do this politely but firmly.
   
   Most people are not seeking trouble, and your handling of the situation can go a long way toward avoiding any. , Party crashers are usually looking for a good time – or possibly trouble – and may not want to leave.
   
   Explain that the party is private, and that while you are sorry, they will need to leave. , Your cool head and the conversation will help keep the situation under control. , This will also isolate the party crashers and make it easier to get them out the door. ,, If the party crashers are aggressive or threaten violence, do not hesitate to call the police – and be sure to make sure the party crashers know you are doing so. , If they were particularly difficult to persuade to leave, consider locking the door.
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   Step 2: Do you simply wish the party crashers to leave?

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   Step 3: Are you open to allowing the party crashers to stay if they were invited by another party guest?

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   Step 4: Are you open to allowing the party crashers to stay regardless of who they know at the party?

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   Step 5: Approach the party crashers politely and calmly.

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   Step 6: Pay close attention to the party crashers and note their demeanor.

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   Step 7: Ask the party crashers how they came to know about the party.

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   Step 8: Were they invited by another guest?

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   Step 9: How the party crashers learned about the party can help you to decide whether to allow them to stay.

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    Step 10: Decide how you would like to handle the situation.

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    Step 11: Remain calm.

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    Step 12: Take your earlier assessment of the party crashers into consideration in how you handle the situation.

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    Step 13: Explain to the party crashers that the party is by invitation only

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    Step 14: and that you would like them to leave.

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    Step 15: Expect a little resistance.

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    Step 16: Begin escorting them to the door while you calmly continue explaining the situation.

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    Step 17: If you have a few friends around

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    Step 18: they can help guide and contain the party crashers on their way to the door.

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    Step 19: Try to avoid physical contact

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    Step 20: but a firm hand to the shoulder can help encourage someone turn around and depart.

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    Step 21: Be prepared for

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    Step 22: but do not invite trouble.

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    Step 23: Keep an eye on the party crashers as they leave

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    Step 24: but don't follow them off your property.

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