How to Attract an ISTJ Personality
Identify ISTJ types., Attend a board game night., Watch a sports game., Explore your social group., Determine if you are compatible., Start conversations., Speak to them honestly., Compliment them about specific features., Keep your promises., Give...
Step-by-Step Guide
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Step 1: Identify ISTJ types.
ISTJ types are rather common compared to other personality types.
This means that you should have little trouble meeting one as long as you know what to look for.
Keep an eye out for common ISTJ characteristics.ISTJs tend to dress modestly.
Their clothing is usually more functional than stylish.
ISTJs often have careers in technology, law enforcement, library science, or management.
ISTJs value structure, order, tradition, and loyalty.
ISTJs are very factual, and they can stubbornly believe they are always right.
This means that they may start debates with you. -
Step 2: Attend a board game night.
ISTJs enjoy strategy and trivia games, such as chess, Trivial Pursuit, or Risk.
Find a local bar or game store that hosts game nights, and attend one.
You may end up playing against an ISTJ type.
Just be warned, they can be competitive!, ISTJs tend to enjoy sports.
You may have luck meeting one by attending local sporting events.
You can go to a live game or watch it at a sports bar.
You might get involved with fan clubs or fantasy leagues where you can run into an ISTJ., ISTJs can be homebodies, but they do like to socialize with close friends and family.
Someone in your network or social group may know an ISTJ.
Ask around to see if anyone is willing to set you up with one.If your friends are uncertain what ISTJ means, tell them that you are looking for a partner who is loyal, honest, logical, and hardworking. , Despite being introverts, ISTJs tend to be attracted to extroverted personalities, such as ESTP (Extroverted-Sensing-Thinking-Perceiving) and ESFP (Extroverted-Sensing-Feeling-Perceiving).They are least compatible with ENFP (Extroverted-Intuitive-Feeling-Perceiving) types.Remember that personality type alone will not determine the success of a relationship. , ISTJs may be uncomfortable introducing themselves, but they often like people who make the first move.
When trying to get closer to an ISTJ, don't be afraid to start a conversation or invite them to hang out.Send them a text every few days if you haven’t heard from them.
Even if they don’t answer right away, this will help them open up to you.
ISTJs enjoy group events.
You can invite them out to larger group activities such as going to the movies, having a barbecue, or playing board games. , ISTJs tend to value honesty and integrity.
When talking to them, always say what you mean.
They are more open to constructive criticism, so you do not have to worry about offending them.ISTJs do not pick up on other people’s emotions very easily.
If you say “I’m fine,” the ISTJ will believe you.
If you're upset, say something like “I’m having a bad day.” , If you want to flirt with an ISTJ, avoid giving hints.
Tell them exactly what you like about them.
You can say something like "I really admire how smart you are" or "I think it's really cool how devoted to your family you are."
ISTJs are known for being extremely dependable.
They typically want a partner who will be just as reliable.
If you make a promise to an ISTJ, keep it as best as you can.For example, if you agree to meet up at 4:00PM, don’t be late.
Don’t arrive at 4:15 or 4:30.
Be on time.
Better yet, try to be early! Cancelling plans last minute may disappoint ISTJs.
While it is sometimes unavoidable, don’t make it a habit. , Since ISTJs are introverts, they need time to themselves.
ISTJs often plan their social events around a work or study schedule, so do not be offended if they are not always available to hang out.
Respecting their space and time will help you demonstrate that you care for their needs., Do not expect an ISTJ to guess that you like them based on body language, clues, gifts, or subtle messages.
Since they tend not to recognize the emotions of other people, it is best to state outright how you feel about them.You can say, “I really like you, and I want to know if you would like to go a date with me?” Keep your compliments simple without sentimental praise.
You can say, "I think you're a really cool person, and I really enjoy hanging out with you.
Do you want to out on a date?"
An ISTJ type may take a relationship slowly.
Since they tend to look for long term relationships over short hook-ups, dates where you can get to know each other are best.
Avoid noisy or adventurous activities, like clubbing, barhopping, or karaoke.Some date ideas include:
Going out for dinner Studying together if you are in school or college Hiking Seeing their favorite sports team Visiting an arcade , ISTJs crave order.
When planning a date, be as exact as you can.
Make sure that the ISTJ knows exactly what will happen.
Better yet, they may appreciate being able to plan the date themselves.Don’t say something like “Let’s go to a movie and then decide what to do.” Instead, plan out the specifics.
You can say, “There’s a movie at 6:30, and then we can go to dinner at this great Italian place that I know.” , ISTJs may not express much affection or sentimentality at the beginning of a relationship.
When asking them out, try to remain calm.
Do not overwhelm them with gushing compliments or extravagant gifts.Flashy gifts like flowers, chocolate, or love letters may make them uncomfortable early in the relationship.
Be patient.
ISTJs tend to take relationships slowly. -
Step 3: Watch a sports game.
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Step 4: Explore your social group.
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Step 5: Determine if you are compatible.
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Step 6: Start conversations.
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Step 7: Speak to them honestly.
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Step 8: Compliment them about specific features.
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Step 9: Keep your promises.
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Step 10: Give them space.
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Step 11: State your feelings clearly.
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Step 12: Choose simple dates.
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Step 13: Plan out the details ahead of time.
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Step 14: Avoid grand displays of affection.
Detailed Guide
ISTJ types are rather common compared to other personality types.
This means that you should have little trouble meeting one as long as you know what to look for.
Keep an eye out for common ISTJ characteristics.ISTJs tend to dress modestly.
Their clothing is usually more functional than stylish.
ISTJs often have careers in technology, law enforcement, library science, or management.
ISTJs value structure, order, tradition, and loyalty.
ISTJs are very factual, and they can stubbornly believe they are always right.
This means that they may start debates with you.
ISTJs enjoy strategy and trivia games, such as chess, Trivial Pursuit, or Risk.
Find a local bar or game store that hosts game nights, and attend one.
You may end up playing against an ISTJ type.
Just be warned, they can be competitive!, ISTJs tend to enjoy sports.
You may have luck meeting one by attending local sporting events.
You can go to a live game or watch it at a sports bar.
You might get involved with fan clubs or fantasy leagues where you can run into an ISTJ., ISTJs can be homebodies, but they do like to socialize with close friends and family.
Someone in your network or social group may know an ISTJ.
Ask around to see if anyone is willing to set you up with one.If your friends are uncertain what ISTJ means, tell them that you are looking for a partner who is loyal, honest, logical, and hardworking. , Despite being introverts, ISTJs tend to be attracted to extroverted personalities, such as ESTP (Extroverted-Sensing-Thinking-Perceiving) and ESFP (Extroverted-Sensing-Feeling-Perceiving).They are least compatible with ENFP (Extroverted-Intuitive-Feeling-Perceiving) types.Remember that personality type alone will not determine the success of a relationship. , ISTJs may be uncomfortable introducing themselves, but they often like people who make the first move.
When trying to get closer to an ISTJ, don't be afraid to start a conversation or invite them to hang out.Send them a text every few days if you haven’t heard from them.
Even if they don’t answer right away, this will help them open up to you.
ISTJs enjoy group events.
You can invite them out to larger group activities such as going to the movies, having a barbecue, or playing board games. , ISTJs tend to value honesty and integrity.
When talking to them, always say what you mean.
They are more open to constructive criticism, so you do not have to worry about offending them.ISTJs do not pick up on other people’s emotions very easily.
If you say “I’m fine,” the ISTJ will believe you.
If you're upset, say something like “I’m having a bad day.” , If you want to flirt with an ISTJ, avoid giving hints.
Tell them exactly what you like about them.
You can say something like "I really admire how smart you are" or "I think it's really cool how devoted to your family you are."
ISTJs are known for being extremely dependable.
They typically want a partner who will be just as reliable.
If you make a promise to an ISTJ, keep it as best as you can.For example, if you agree to meet up at 4:00PM, don’t be late.
Don’t arrive at 4:15 or 4:30.
Be on time.
Better yet, try to be early! Cancelling plans last minute may disappoint ISTJs.
While it is sometimes unavoidable, don’t make it a habit. , Since ISTJs are introverts, they need time to themselves.
ISTJs often plan their social events around a work or study schedule, so do not be offended if they are not always available to hang out.
Respecting their space and time will help you demonstrate that you care for their needs., Do not expect an ISTJ to guess that you like them based on body language, clues, gifts, or subtle messages.
Since they tend not to recognize the emotions of other people, it is best to state outright how you feel about them.You can say, “I really like you, and I want to know if you would like to go a date with me?” Keep your compliments simple without sentimental praise.
You can say, "I think you're a really cool person, and I really enjoy hanging out with you.
Do you want to out on a date?"
An ISTJ type may take a relationship slowly.
Since they tend to look for long term relationships over short hook-ups, dates where you can get to know each other are best.
Avoid noisy or adventurous activities, like clubbing, barhopping, or karaoke.Some date ideas include:
Going out for dinner Studying together if you are in school or college Hiking Seeing their favorite sports team Visiting an arcade , ISTJs crave order.
When planning a date, be as exact as you can.
Make sure that the ISTJ knows exactly what will happen.
Better yet, they may appreciate being able to plan the date themselves.Don’t say something like “Let’s go to a movie and then decide what to do.” Instead, plan out the specifics.
You can say, “There’s a movie at 6:30, and then we can go to dinner at this great Italian place that I know.” , ISTJs may not express much affection or sentimentality at the beginning of a relationship.
When asking them out, try to remain calm.
Do not overwhelm them with gushing compliments or extravagant gifts.Flashy gifts like flowers, chocolate, or love letters may make them uncomfortable early in the relationship.
Be patient.
ISTJs tend to take relationships slowly.
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