How to Be a Mistress

Step-by-Step Guide

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   Step 1: Question your motives very carefully.

   If you find a mutual attraction with a married man ask yourself if you really want to pursue this relationship knowing that you will spend holidays alone and that you will always take a back seat to his family.
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   Step 2: Be discreet.

   Realize that if you do anything to cause his wife to discover your secret, he will only hate you for it and you will likely lose him. , You are dispensable.
   
   She is not.
   
   She gets half his assets if they divorce.
   
   He has worked hard for what he has attained and hates the thought of losing it.
   
   His kids need him, and if he is the kind of man you think he is, he will not want to hurt his children. , This means the fun, non-committal things such as mind-blowing intimacy, indulgent fantasies, and listening when he needs to talk.
   
   These are the things he wants from you.
   
   Be his fantasy girl.
   
   He has enough reality in his life. , If you really want to hold onto him, you must accept that commitment is not to be.
   
   This does not mean you become a doormat.
   
   Long-lasting affairs are built on trust, intimacy and respect, just as any good relationship is.
   
   Usually long-term affairs are affairs of the intellect as well as affairs of the heart and body. , Make sure he understands and respects that you have a life outside of him.
   
   You are not his servant; you are his respected lover and confidant. , They will only serve to make him question why he's hooked up with such a nut case. , First of all, there is no need
   - after all, YOU are the one trying to take something that isn't yours, so you're in no position to judge her; secondly it makes you look catty and insecure.
   
   There is no reason to be angry at the wife for being what caught his eye FIRST. ,, He won't leave her for you...you are second best and need to accept that position...or you can just go and find love the traditional way.... ,, Are you willing to risk this? Are you willing to be exposed to everyone that you know that you are an adulteress? Be mindful that a jealous woman researches better than the FBI.
   
   She will find out and expose you.
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   Step 3: Be prepared to have to work harder than his wife to hold onto him.

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   Step 4: Make your time together unforgettable.

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   Step 5: Grant him the unconditional love he desires.

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   Step 6: Keep some personal time and space.

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   Step 7: Manipulating

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   Step 8: threatening to disclose the affair and childish games and antics only make you look immature and threatened

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   Step 9: and certainly aren't attractive.

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    Step 10: Although you are probably insanely jealous of his wife

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    Step 11: resist the urge to demean her in front of him.

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    Step 12: Imagine how you would feel if someone slept with your husband

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    Step 13: the father of your children

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    Step 14: and put yourself in their shoes and ask yourself why you are doing something so painful and tearing an innocent family apart...the term home wrecker was invented for a reason.

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    Step 15: Look for the love that you want and deserve in a relationship that is HEALTHY and has PROMISE - this one doesn't.

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    Step 16: Don't break any hearts!

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    Step 17: Be aware that in this day and age of violence

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    Step 18: that if the offended wife finds out

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    Step 19: your life could be in danger.

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