How to Be Happy About Being Unpopular

Step-by-Step Guide

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   Step 1: Understand that not all popular people in school go on to be successful adults.

   People who reach their "peak of popularity" in high school, or talk about high school being the best part of their lives, sometimes have a steep fall when high school ends (they go nowhere).
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   Step 2: Look around you at those popular people.

   Would you really want to be friends with those people? Do you really like what they stand for? How they treat others, and how they make others feel? Would you enjoy doing what they do, all the standard popular stuff, or would you prefer to have a little more depth and variety in your life? , Value your friends by how much they add to your quality of life rather than how popular they are. ,,, Usually, the cause of being "unpopular" is simply social ineptitude.
   
   Increasing your social skills will help you in all aspects of life. , He's the loner that never got lonely, a great writer, and is the most demanded author in prisons, probably one of the loneliest places created by man. , Sure you may go to "cool parties," but most likely those parties are full of drunks who are getting too drunk to escape the fact that they feel alone... and unpopular.
   
   You are stronger than that and you are at least facing the harshness of the facts and aim to deal with things positively. , There really is no such thing as popularity.
   
   Kids that you think are popular just have a group of friends like you have a group of friends.
   
   Stick with your group of friends because to them you are popular. , Sometimes when people are popular they get stabbed in the back by a million people, but when you stick to friends that you completely trust it's less likely you'll get stabbed in the back.
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   Step 3: Compare them to your real friends

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   Step 4: who might not be the most popular kids in school

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   Step 5: but who wouldn't talk about you behind your back just to be more popular.

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   Step 6: Remind yourself that being popular does not guarantee good grades

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   Step 7: honest friendships

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   Step 8: or people who would care about your well being

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   Step 9: or your needs.

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    Step 10: Realize that by being happy with yourself

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    Step 11: your looks

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    Step 12: your grades

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    Step 13: your compassion and your sense of humor

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    Step 14: makes you a better person and will help you make a better life for yourself in the future.

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    Step 15: Improve your social skills for the right reasons.

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    Step 16: Read Charles Bukowski.

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    Step 17: Understand that being popular really has no importance.

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    Step 18: Strive to enjoy friendships rather than be popular.

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    Step 19: Also remember that if you're not the most popular kid

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    Step 20: it's okay because maybe being popular isn't for you

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    Step 21: maybe you have a specific reason to not get along with somebody.

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