How to Get over Somebody in 30 Days

Step-by-Step Guide

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   Step 1: Get them out of your life - don't call them

   Most sites say to keep in contact with them, but I found that if I talked to them and looked at their pictures, I started missing them again.
   
   So try to have as little contact as possible.
   
   If you go to work or school with them, I suggest to only have casual conversation with them as best you can, try not to become friends with them again yet.
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   Step 2: text them

   So don't be insecure, DON'T BE DESPERATE, be confident, (try) to get on with your life, get a new hobby and other things that make you feel good. , And yes guys, that means that new watch, those underwear she thought you looked cute in, pictures you took together, whatever.
   
   By getting rid of those reminders, you will be able to put new reminders up of family, friends, or maybe someone new. , Or smaller things, but still effective, like going shopping, trying new foods, have a party or get together.
   
   Just have fun with the people you want to be with, don't force yourself to be happy.
   
   Its only natural to be sad, and you don't just get over it quickly, take your time, but don't stop your life because of them. , My favorite part about writing a journal is rereading it again, seeing my progress with getting over the person.You really feel like you have accomplished something and you will always remember them, just not in a sad way like you miss them but more in a way that your happy for the experience with that person. , So ask their friends about them and see the real reason they didn't want to be with you anymore, or how they felt when you left them.
   
   If you feel ready and brave enough, I suggest you do it yourself.
   
   Don't ask them right away or in the next week after the breakup, but when you know you are over them, maybe even in a month or so.
   
   Then they will also feel confident to tell you because they understand what they feel as well. , So now is the time to re-connect with them as friends, JUST FRIENDS.
   
   Not friends with benefits.
   
   Once you feel close enough in a matter of maybe weeks, or even months, ask them how they felt about how your relationship ended, or any other questions you might have had about your past relationship.
   
   Then, remind them that you are happy that they are just friends now, and be excited for the rest of your life. ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, I know you might feel like they deserve it, but you don't have to stoup to their level. ,,,,,,,,,
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   Step 3: e-mail them or visit their Facebook or Myspace account.

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   Step 4: Be Confident - Show them that you are happier now without them

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   Step 5: even if your still hurting.

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   Step 6: Get rid of anything that reminds you of them - Yes girls

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   Step 7: that includes all the jewelry

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   Step 8: clothes

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   Step 9: chocolates

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    Step 10: whatever.

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    Step 11: Do new things - Do new extreme things like travel

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    Step 12: get new friends

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    Step 13: get new hobbies

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    Step 14: get a complete change in your life.

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    Step 15: Get a journal - Write down all of the feeling you feel

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    Step 16: all the things you do

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    Step 17: and all the people you're with until you feel you have moved on.

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    Step 18: Understand what he/she wants - A big reason people miss or still want to be with their old partners is because you look back at your relationship time after time

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    Step 19: analyzing every detail of everything you both have ever done until you want to be with them again

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    Step 20: to change everything that you messed up last time.

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    Step 21: Talk to them - Now that you feel you are pretty much over them

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    Step 22: you still have that little bit of curiosity left.

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    Step 23: This above was an overview of what you should do to get over them

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    Step 24: but here is 30 different things you can do to get over them:

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    Step 25: Do not call them

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    Step 26: Do not text them

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    Step 27: Do not e-mail them

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    Step 28: Do not visit there Facebook or Myspace

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    Step 29: Don't act jealous

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    Step 30: Don't be insecure

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    Step 31: Don't be desperate

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    Step 32: Be confident

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    Step 33: Go on with your life

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    Step 34: Get a new hobby

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    Step 35: Spend time on yourself

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    Step 36: Decide if your life is better with or without them (REALLY think about this one)

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    Step 37: Learn how to 'let go'

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    Step 38: Forgive them

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    Step 39: Don't say things you'll regret

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    Step 40: feel and act attractive

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    Step 41: Take a vacation

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    Step 42: Get rid of bad habits that caused problems in that relationship

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    Step 43: so you won't have those problems when you find someone new

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    Step 44: Don't try to make them feel guilty.

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    Step 45: Don't fear loneliness

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    Step 46: embrace it to discover who you are

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    Step 47: Be able to admit your mistakes

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    Step 48: Go on a blind date

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    Step 49: Lose some weight

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    Step 50: feel better physically and emotionally

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    Step 51: Learn patience

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    Step 52: Be yourself

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    Step 53: Make sure whatever you didn't like in your past relationship won't be in your next one

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    Step 54: Start talking to them again as friends

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    Step 55: Be happy that you can have a new life

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    Step 56: stress free.

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