How to Get Your Stuff Back After Splitting up
Consider your relationship after the break-up., Identify issues that may prevent the return of your property., Create a list of things that were borrowed, which are undoubtedly yours, and which you wish to have safely returned., Create a list of...
Step-by-Step Guide
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Step 1: Consider your relationship after the break-up.
Are you speaking? Are there any unresolved feelings? Will you likely get back together in a month's time? -
Step 2: Identify issues that may prevent the return of your property.
We are most interested in personal anger/hate, trust, honesty and need. , Are there any items which may result in a disagreement? ,, Decide on a method that is likely to be noticed, don't write a letter if you think it may be torn up.
Remember that they may not want to answer your calls while they get over you. ,, Did you get a reply (if the contact was written?) If not, wait as long as you can, (but not too long, especially if the return of your property is urgent), and politely request some attention to resolve your property concerns.
Contact people who are in regular contact with your ex, and ask for them to make an approach for you. , Use all the numbers and email addresses you have for your ex.
Send a text message offering to help make a clean break.
Say you only want items that you absolutely need, and then you'll be out of their hair.
Ask for no more than the return of your clear property. , Offer to go to arbitration (informal or formal) to resolve the outstanding property issues.
State that you need your stuff and are still interested in a companionable solution to the problem. ,, -
Step 3: Create a list of things that were borrowed
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Step 4: which are undoubtedly yours
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Step 5: and which you wish to have safely returned.
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Step 6: Create a list of property you have which your ex may like to have returned.
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Step 7: Choose a method of contact that will not offend your ex.
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Step 8: Contact your ex
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Step 9: express your honest feelings about the breakup
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Step 10: offer your time to resolve any differences or issues
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Step 11: and ask for a moment when you could collect some of your things that you have left at their place.
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Step 12: Was your call taken?
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Step 13: Still no joy?
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Step 14: If your ex ignores you still
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Step 15: make contact (by text/letter/email/answerphone)
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Step 16: mention that legal help is available for couples that can't agree on property issues.
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Step 17: If your ex refuses your requests or ignores you further
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Step 18: try asking a lawyer/solicitor to send a letter to your ex setting out your legal claim to your goods.
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Step 19: If necessary you can claim in a family/small claims court.
Detailed Guide
Are you speaking? Are there any unresolved feelings? Will you likely get back together in a month's time?
We are most interested in personal anger/hate, trust, honesty and need. , Are there any items which may result in a disagreement? ,, Decide on a method that is likely to be noticed, don't write a letter if you think it may be torn up.
Remember that they may not want to answer your calls while they get over you. ,, Did you get a reply (if the contact was written?) If not, wait as long as you can, (but not too long, especially if the return of your property is urgent), and politely request some attention to resolve your property concerns.
Contact people who are in regular contact with your ex, and ask for them to make an approach for you. , Use all the numbers and email addresses you have for your ex.
Send a text message offering to help make a clean break.
Say you only want items that you absolutely need, and then you'll be out of their hair.
Ask for no more than the return of your clear property. , Offer to go to arbitration (informal or formal) to resolve the outstanding property issues.
State that you need your stuff and are still interested in a companionable solution to the problem. ,,
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