How to Win a Girl's Heart
Don't come on too strong early., Be brave., Be around other girls., Have good hygiene., If you can make a girl laugh, you'll get further with her., Be sincere., Prove that you really like her., Compliment her., Memorize her eye color., Practice...
Step-by-Step Guide
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Step 1: Don't come on too strong early.
Let the relationship develop at its own pace.
Coming on too strong early will almost certainly creep her out.
Gradually get stronger feelings for her as you go on with the relationship together. -
Step 2: Be brave.
Most girls like people with confidence, not an ego.
Just walk up to her and start a simple conversation.
She'll get the hint that you are interested in her.
Start with a simple conversation starter: "That's a really nice dress.
Where is it from?" "I'm sorry, I'm new here.
Can you tell me where the library is?" "Hi, my name is .
You look like you're interesting to talk to.
Do you mind if I steal a couple minutes of your time?"
This is not the same thing as flirting with other girls, which is probably not a good move.
Being around other girls tells the girl that you're really interested in that other girls find you safe, reliable, and easy to be around.
If you get other girls to indirectly vouch for you like this, you've made a big step.
Make friends with her friends if it's not too big of a step.
We know that it can be overwhelming, but just try.
If her friends like you, you'll have a better chance of winning her over.
After all, girls often turn to their friends for advice and for a second opinion.
Make sure they have a high opinion of you. , Women take pride in smelling clean and looking kempt! That means if a man has good hygiene, it works really well on her.
The opposite, bad hygiene, is usually an immediate deal-breaker.
Believe it or not, fresh, clean-smelling hair is a really good thing.
And, a fresh-smelling body is a must-have.
Here are three things that you can do right now to improve your hygiene:
Rain or shine, sweat or not, shower daily.
If you can afford it, it's better to be too-clean than not clean enough.
Take pride in how clean you are and in smelling nice.
Especially if you play sports, this step is a must.
Shave or groom your facial hair daily.
Most women like men who don't carry facial hair: it's prickly and unlikely to look good unless you're an adult.
So shave that stubble away every day.
Use deodorant, not cologne.
A lot of guys think they can "mask" the scent of their natural body odor with cologne.
Instead, the BO and cologne just mixes together to create a very bad odor.
Girls would rather not smell you at all than smell this cologne-creation.
If you must spray on cologne, spray it on very lightly. , But don't take advantage of this.
Let her be your best friend first, then ease into things.
A girl needs to know that she can trust you, and that you're not going to break her heart because you really do care about her.
Girls love to laugh and will laugh at anything you say, even if its not funny. , Compliments, flirting, teasing, carefulness
-- none of it matters unless you truly do care.
When you do decide to compliment her, take time to reflect on what you like about her, summon up the courage to tell her, and be sincere.
It's okay to disagree with her, as long as you don't threaten her, you respect her opinion, and you offer good reasons about why you believe differently.
Who knows? She might even respect you more for speaking your mind, because it shows how much of an individual you are. , Show that you're not simply crushing or lusting for her.
Ask her about herself, talk to her.
Don't just move in for the kiss.
Listen to her and look her in the eye. , Complimenting a girl is tough: every person wants to feel good about themselves, but the right compliment is really hard to come by.
Not only that, a little complimenting goes a long way.
Pay attention to these guidelines when you're ready to start showing you like her more than just a friend:
Reinforce how she views herself.
If she thinks of herself as an athlete, reinforce her competitive spirit or athletic skills.
If she thinks of herself as a thinker, praise her smarts.
Whatever she thinks of herself as, compliment that aspect of her the most.
Stick with safe compliments about her personality.
Don't compliment her feminine areas, or too much about her looks; while girls want to feel pretty, they also want to feel like you respect them just as much for their smarts and personality.
If you do want to compliment a girl on her looks, stick to these areas:
Smile Hair Eyes Lips Clothes Style Try out some compliments like these.
They're a rough sketch, so try to think of your own that are more appropriate for the occasion and the girl. "I'm sorry this is pretty awkward, but I get really nervous around pretty girls." "Maybe you get this a lot, but I love the way your mind works." "I like how the color of your eyes matches your dress.
Does one of your parents also have blue eyes?"
Do this by looking at them as much as you can when you're talking with her.
It wouldn't be a bad idea to do this for every woman you meet. , You've probably started flirting with her a little bit by complimenting her and talking with her.
Now it's time to step it up a notch and really show her what your game is about.
Whatever you do, visualize success and be confident.
You can't flirt if you're not confident in your abilities to win her over.
So do whatever gets you pumped up, or wait until you've scored the winning touchdown or won the science fair, and start flirting.
Break the touch barrier.
Gently start touching her in safe, non-threatening areas.
Touch her hand lightly when you make a point or tell the kicker to a joke; rub her back quickly when you're reassuring her about something; touch the top of her shoulder when you want to get her attention.
Playfully tease her.
Preferably, tease her about something that she's confident about or good at, so that she knows that you're teasing her instead of insulting her.
If she's great at school, for example, say something like "I wouldn't want to be on a science project with you, because that means I'd be pulling all the slack."
It's a waste of time and gets a relationship headed in the wrong direction.
If you try to start a relationship on something false (like you say you've had a multi-year relationship yet you've never even had a girlfriend), that is most likely where you will end up.
If you think the girl is only in the relationship for one thing, and you're in it for another, don't just play along to keep her with you.
Tell her what you're looking for and try to make her see what really counts.
Don't play hard to get unless you're sure it'll work.
Believe it or not, some guys try to play hard to get.
And most of the time, it fails because the girl misinterprets his distance for coldness. , Most girls want to have someone they can trust and turn to when something goes wrong.
And even when she is having a good day, let her know you're interested in how she's doing.
If you know that she has plans after work or school, ask her how it went.
If you let on that you like her, she'll eventually pick up on the hints.
You don't even have to come out and say it.
If you say you're going to do something, do it.
If you talk the talk, be prepared to walk the walk.
Girls (and guys, for that matter) hate it when people say they'll do something but never follow through.
Don't be that guy.
Polish your reputation.
Don't have the reputation of someone that she might not want to date.
That means:
Treating other girls nicely and not harassing them.
Having good friends who are likely and willing to vouch for you when you need it.
Being somebody who is generally well-liked, respected, and admired. , It makes an even bigger impression if you take it off of your back and give it to her to wear, but make sure it's clean and smells decent.
In doing this, you show a girl that you care about her.
She will feel safe and cared for. , Ask her about her day.
It's a simple way to show her that you are interested in what she does, and that you do care.
When she starts to talk, you must give her your full attention.
Look her in the eye.
Most importantly, don't interrupt.
Ask her questions to show her that you were listening, and offer your opinion if you have one. , If she gets a perfect score on her math test, be cheerful about it! If she is having a bad day, let her know that you feel her pain and that you want her to feel better.
Ask her if there is any way that you can make her feel better.
If you know of a surefire way to cheer her up, use it when she's down.
Maybe she likes a special kind of fro-yo that's only available two towns south.
Maybe she's excited about teddy-bears that they make her laugh.
Whatever it is, go the extra mile to help show her what she means to you. , Everyone has something they don't like about the person they love, but if you have too many big things on that list, that's trouble.
You need to love her for the things that make her special, for her uniqueness.
Tell her so.
If she's insecure about something, for example, you'd have a golden opportunity to make her feel better.
Say something like: "I love your freckles.
They really highlight your beauty." A simple thing like that could boost her spirits and show her that you like her for the right reasons.
Be especially careful about her insecurities.
Most girls (and guys, too) are insecure about some aspect of their personality and/or looks.
As you get to know her, you'll probably come to know and understand that insecurity more.
Don't call attention to it, be forgiving of it, and encourage her to look at all the other traits that make her wonderful. , You can actually directly say that.
Girls love to be complimented and to know that they are beautiful, but don't overdo it, particularly in a new friendship.
Just saying something like, "You look really nice today" will make her happy.
As long as you're sincere and mean it.
If you are not, they will not trust your opinion on other things. , Share interesting things that you're thinking, or stories about people you've come across.
You've probably asked a lot of questions about her, but maybe she doesn't know all that much about you.
Share the parts of yourself that you're comfortable sharing, and maybe even the parts of yourself you're still scared to reveal.
If she's shown parts of herself that are vulnerable, don't be afraid to show her little bits of pieces of yourself that you're vulnerable about, too.
Put yourself in her shoes.
What does she like talking about? How does she respond to criticism? What makes her different than other girls? What does she pride herself on? Answer these questions from her perspective and plan accordingly. , Getting to the date stage is the hardest part.
Once you've gone on a few dates, you'll find out pretty quickly whether she's still the stuff of your dreams.
But getting there can be difficult.
Luckily, you're confident, calm, and you have a plan:
You don't have to say it's a date to ask her out.
Things can get awkward if you call it a date.
Instead, say something like: "Hey, so I got two tickets to that new movie on Saturday, and my friend bailed.
Would you want to go?" Increases your chances of success on a date by doing something exciting, something that raises her heart rate.
Maybe a haunted house, or a theme park with roller coasters, or a horror movie.
Dates that are exciting have a better chance of promoting a bond between you two because you feel like you've been through something together.
Be a gentleman.
Open doors for her, be on time, pay for the date, and don't expect a kiss on the first date.
Move at her pace and make her feel comfortable.
If you make her feel comfortable at every step, she should melt into your arms. , Love who she is, inside and out.
And show it.
This is the most important step.
If she knows you love her she will be more keen on the relationship. -
Step 3: Be around other girls.
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Step 4: Have good hygiene.
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Step 5: If you can make a girl laugh
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Step 6: you'll get further with her.
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Step 7: Be sincere.
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Step 8: Prove that you really like her.
-
Step 9: Compliment her.
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Step 10: Memorize her eye color.
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Step 11: Practice flirting with her.
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Step 12: Don't play games.
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Step 13: Be reliable.
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Step 14: Let her wear your jacket if she's cold.
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Step 15: Be interested in who she is.
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Step 16: Share in her emotions.
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Step 17: Love her for her quirks.
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Step 18: Make her feel like the most beautiful girl in the world.
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Step 19: Develop great communication skills.
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Step 20: Ask her out on a date if you haven't already.
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Step 21: Always let her know you love her.
Detailed Guide
Let the relationship develop at its own pace.
Coming on too strong early will almost certainly creep her out.
Gradually get stronger feelings for her as you go on with the relationship together.
Most girls like people with confidence, not an ego.
Just walk up to her and start a simple conversation.
She'll get the hint that you are interested in her.
Start with a simple conversation starter: "That's a really nice dress.
Where is it from?" "I'm sorry, I'm new here.
Can you tell me where the library is?" "Hi, my name is .
You look like you're interesting to talk to.
Do you mind if I steal a couple minutes of your time?"
This is not the same thing as flirting with other girls, which is probably not a good move.
Being around other girls tells the girl that you're really interested in that other girls find you safe, reliable, and easy to be around.
If you get other girls to indirectly vouch for you like this, you've made a big step.
Make friends with her friends if it's not too big of a step.
We know that it can be overwhelming, but just try.
If her friends like you, you'll have a better chance of winning her over.
After all, girls often turn to their friends for advice and for a second opinion.
Make sure they have a high opinion of you. , Women take pride in smelling clean and looking kempt! That means if a man has good hygiene, it works really well on her.
The opposite, bad hygiene, is usually an immediate deal-breaker.
Believe it or not, fresh, clean-smelling hair is a really good thing.
And, a fresh-smelling body is a must-have.
Here are three things that you can do right now to improve your hygiene:
Rain or shine, sweat or not, shower daily.
If you can afford it, it's better to be too-clean than not clean enough.
Take pride in how clean you are and in smelling nice.
Especially if you play sports, this step is a must.
Shave or groom your facial hair daily.
Most women like men who don't carry facial hair: it's prickly and unlikely to look good unless you're an adult.
So shave that stubble away every day.
Use deodorant, not cologne.
A lot of guys think they can "mask" the scent of their natural body odor with cologne.
Instead, the BO and cologne just mixes together to create a very bad odor.
Girls would rather not smell you at all than smell this cologne-creation.
If you must spray on cologne, spray it on very lightly. , But don't take advantage of this.
Let her be your best friend first, then ease into things.
A girl needs to know that she can trust you, and that you're not going to break her heart because you really do care about her.
Girls love to laugh and will laugh at anything you say, even if its not funny. , Compliments, flirting, teasing, carefulness
-- none of it matters unless you truly do care.
When you do decide to compliment her, take time to reflect on what you like about her, summon up the courage to tell her, and be sincere.
It's okay to disagree with her, as long as you don't threaten her, you respect her opinion, and you offer good reasons about why you believe differently.
Who knows? She might even respect you more for speaking your mind, because it shows how much of an individual you are. , Show that you're not simply crushing or lusting for her.
Ask her about herself, talk to her.
Don't just move in for the kiss.
Listen to her and look her in the eye. , Complimenting a girl is tough: every person wants to feel good about themselves, but the right compliment is really hard to come by.
Not only that, a little complimenting goes a long way.
Pay attention to these guidelines when you're ready to start showing you like her more than just a friend:
Reinforce how she views herself.
If she thinks of herself as an athlete, reinforce her competitive spirit or athletic skills.
If she thinks of herself as a thinker, praise her smarts.
Whatever she thinks of herself as, compliment that aspect of her the most.
Stick with safe compliments about her personality.
Don't compliment her feminine areas, or too much about her looks; while girls want to feel pretty, they also want to feel like you respect them just as much for their smarts and personality.
If you do want to compliment a girl on her looks, stick to these areas:
Smile Hair Eyes Lips Clothes Style Try out some compliments like these.
They're a rough sketch, so try to think of your own that are more appropriate for the occasion and the girl. "I'm sorry this is pretty awkward, but I get really nervous around pretty girls." "Maybe you get this a lot, but I love the way your mind works." "I like how the color of your eyes matches your dress.
Does one of your parents also have blue eyes?"
Do this by looking at them as much as you can when you're talking with her.
It wouldn't be a bad idea to do this for every woman you meet. , You've probably started flirting with her a little bit by complimenting her and talking with her.
Now it's time to step it up a notch and really show her what your game is about.
Whatever you do, visualize success and be confident.
You can't flirt if you're not confident in your abilities to win her over.
So do whatever gets you pumped up, or wait until you've scored the winning touchdown or won the science fair, and start flirting.
Break the touch barrier.
Gently start touching her in safe, non-threatening areas.
Touch her hand lightly when you make a point or tell the kicker to a joke; rub her back quickly when you're reassuring her about something; touch the top of her shoulder when you want to get her attention.
Playfully tease her.
Preferably, tease her about something that she's confident about or good at, so that she knows that you're teasing her instead of insulting her.
If she's great at school, for example, say something like "I wouldn't want to be on a science project with you, because that means I'd be pulling all the slack."
It's a waste of time and gets a relationship headed in the wrong direction.
If you try to start a relationship on something false (like you say you've had a multi-year relationship yet you've never even had a girlfriend), that is most likely where you will end up.
If you think the girl is only in the relationship for one thing, and you're in it for another, don't just play along to keep her with you.
Tell her what you're looking for and try to make her see what really counts.
Don't play hard to get unless you're sure it'll work.
Believe it or not, some guys try to play hard to get.
And most of the time, it fails because the girl misinterprets his distance for coldness. , Most girls want to have someone they can trust and turn to when something goes wrong.
And even when she is having a good day, let her know you're interested in how she's doing.
If you know that she has plans after work or school, ask her how it went.
If you let on that you like her, she'll eventually pick up on the hints.
You don't even have to come out and say it.
If you say you're going to do something, do it.
If you talk the talk, be prepared to walk the walk.
Girls (and guys, for that matter) hate it when people say they'll do something but never follow through.
Don't be that guy.
Polish your reputation.
Don't have the reputation of someone that she might not want to date.
That means:
Treating other girls nicely and not harassing them.
Having good friends who are likely and willing to vouch for you when you need it.
Being somebody who is generally well-liked, respected, and admired. , It makes an even bigger impression if you take it off of your back and give it to her to wear, but make sure it's clean and smells decent.
In doing this, you show a girl that you care about her.
She will feel safe and cared for. , Ask her about her day.
It's a simple way to show her that you are interested in what she does, and that you do care.
When she starts to talk, you must give her your full attention.
Look her in the eye.
Most importantly, don't interrupt.
Ask her questions to show her that you were listening, and offer your opinion if you have one. , If she gets a perfect score on her math test, be cheerful about it! If she is having a bad day, let her know that you feel her pain and that you want her to feel better.
Ask her if there is any way that you can make her feel better.
If you know of a surefire way to cheer her up, use it when she's down.
Maybe she likes a special kind of fro-yo that's only available two towns south.
Maybe she's excited about teddy-bears that they make her laugh.
Whatever it is, go the extra mile to help show her what she means to you. , Everyone has something they don't like about the person they love, but if you have too many big things on that list, that's trouble.
You need to love her for the things that make her special, for her uniqueness.
Tell her so.
If she's insecure about something, for example, you'd have a golden opportunity to make her feel better.
Say something like: "I love your freckles.
They really highlight your beauty." A simple thing like that could boost her spirits and show her that you like her for the right reasons.
Be especially careful about her insecurities.
Most girls (and guys, too) are insecure about some aspect of their personality and/or looks.
As you get to know her, you'll probably come to know and understand that insecurity more.
Don't call attention to it, be forgiving of it, and encourage her to look at all the other traits that make her wonderful. , You can actually directly say that.
Girls love to be complimented and to know that they are beautiful, but don't overdo it, particularly in a new friendship.
Just saying something like, "You look really nice today" will make her happy.
As long as you're sincere and mean it.
If you are not, they will not trust your opinion on other things. , Share interesting things that you're thinking, or stories about people you've come across.
You've probably asked a lot of questions about her, but maybe she doesn't know all that much about you.
Share the parts of yourself that you're comfortable sharing, and maybe even the parts of yourself you're still scared to reveal.
If she's shown parts of herself that are vulnerable, don't be afraid to show her little bits of pieces of yourself that you're vulnerable about, too.
Put yourself in her shoes.
What does she like talking about? How does she respond to criticism? What makes her different than other girls? What does she pride herself on? Answer these questions from her perspective and plan accordingly. , Getting to the date stage is the hardest part.
Once you've gone on a few dates, you'll find out pretty quickly whether she's still the stuff of your dreams.
But getting there can be difficult.
Luckily, you're confident, calm, and you have a plan:
You don't have to say it's a date to ask her out.
Things can get awkward if you call it a date.
Instead, say something like: "Hey, so I got two tickets to that new movie on Saturday, and my friend bailed.
Would you want to go?" Increases your chances of success on a date by doing something exciting, something that raises her heart rate.
Maybe a haunted house, or a theme park with roller coasters, or a horror movie.
Dates that are exciting have a better chance of promoting a bond between you two because you feel like you've been through something together.
Be a gentleman.
Open doors for her, be on time, pay for the date, and don't expect a kiss on the first date.
Move at her pace and make her feel comfortable.
If you make her feel comfortable at every step, she should melt into your arms. , Love who she is, inside and out.
And show it.
This is the most important step.
If she knows you love her she will be more keen on the relationship.
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