How to Treat a Co Worker After a One Night Stand
Talk about what happened., Make sure you get all your stuff., Go to work separately., Don’t tell anyone., Confess if you get caught., Avoid gossiping about what happened., Be professional at work., Don’t do it again., Build a relationship beyond...
Step-by-Step Guide
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Step 1: Talk about what happened.
Make sure you both understand what happened, and what your future intentions are.
Be clear and direct with each other, as you don’t want the other person to start making dinner plans for you two when you were just looking for a fling.
Talking about it in advance will help prevent uncomfortably unclear moments in the office.
If you don’t think it’s a good idea to date, say so.
If this is someone you work closely with, that fact is a good excuse that won’t sound so accusatory.
Something like “I don’t want this to get in the way of our professional relationship,” should get the point across.
If you don’t work closely together, you can be more direct, saying that you aren’t really interested.
If one of you left early, and you didn’t get a chance to talk, have a brief private meeting at the office.
You should always be respectful when talking to your partner.
About half of all women, and 20 percent of all men, will experience negative feelings about themselves after a one night stand, usually shame for what they did or like they’ve been used for sex.Avoid statements that can be misconstrued, like "I can't believe we did that," or "I've made a huge mistake." -
Step 2: Make sure you get all your stuff.
Or, if it was at your place, that your co-worker gets all of her or her stuff.
You don’t want someone to have forgotten something, and need to go back later to pick it up.
It’s going to be awkward enough at work the next day, you don’t want to compound the embarrassment by having to see each other after work again.This also means not “accidentally” leaving something that you need to pick up later.
If you think you want your one night stand to turn into something more, that is not the way to go about it. , You want to minimize gossip, or at least avoid drawing attention to what happened.
Avoid carpooling or taking the same train into the office so that you can arrive at different times., What happened between the two of you should stay between the two of you.
Avoid broadcasting information about you and your partner, even to people you think you trust.
Gossip spreads quickly, and telling one person probably means the rest of the office will know shortly.
That means on social media too.
Businesses keep an eye on the kinds of things you post on social accounts, and it will be hard to keep people from prying if you are suddenly “In a relationship,” or “It’s complicated.” Hold off on announcing anything on those places until your relationship becomes serious. , If your boss learns about your hook-up, or confronts you about what happened, be honest.
He doesn’t need to know all the steamy details, but you shouldn’t lie about it.
Your relationship may or may not be a problem, depending on your office’s rules.
Lying about it, though, can cause problems for you and your co-worker, as well as cause your boss to lose trust in you.
If your other co-workers think they’ve figured it out, you don’t want to lie to them.
It will only make it worse if last night’s partner isn’t telling the same story.
Remember that you don’t have to tell them anything, and feel free to remind them that it’s none of their business. , Beyond not telling others, you don’t want to start sharing intimate or embarrassing details about your partner.
While it may feel fun or liberating to talk about her interesting birthmark, or his odd bedroom requests, consider how you would want to be treated.
Gossiping about your co-worker is unprofessional, and will make it difficult for the two of you to maintain a good working relationship.
And, you can be sure, your co-worker will learn it was you who told everyone., While it is going to be awkward at times, you need to try and act as if nothing happened.
Keep your regular routine and meetings, and don’t be afraid to steer any personal conversations back to work.
This also means not avoiding the person at well.
Awkwardly trying to prevent talking to the other person will probably draw attention to you, and make it harder to do your job.
Doing what you’re paid to do should be the priority for both of you at the office., Even if this time was a mistake, you want to be careful about getting a reputation as someone who sleeps around the office.
That sort of behavior will make it difficult for others to work with you, and can negatively affect your career.
Also, you will have a hard time being taken seriously by someone else in the office you might actually have an interest in., It can be easy to start a bond because of your shared experiences, including work projects, bad bosses, or any of the other things that take up your working hours.
If you decide you both decide you want this to be something more, though, that won’t be enough.
Look for things other than work that you can enjoy doing together., If you thought the morning after conversation was uncomfortable, this can be even more so.
Still, it is important that your personal relationship be disclosed to avoid trouble with company policy.
The most senior person, or the one who has been there the longest, should be the one to initiate the conversation with management., Let’s face it, most relationships don’t work.
Unfortunately, with office relationships, you have to continue seeing and working with the person even after it’s ended.
While you may be able to stay friendly with one another, it may end up being too much.
Make sure you have some idea of what you might do if the relationship goes south.
That could mean moving within the company, or taking a new job altogether. -
Step 3: Go to work separately.
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Step 4: Don’t tell anyone.
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Step 5: Confess if you get caught.
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Step 6: Avoid gossiping about what happened.
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Step 7: Be professional at work.
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Step 8: Don’t do it again.
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Step 9: Build a relationship beyond work.
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Step 10: Disclose it to your boss.
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Step 11: Have an exit strategy.
Detailed Guide
Make sure you both understand what happened, and what your future intentions are.
Be clear and direct with each other, as you don’t want the other person to start making dinner plans for you two when you were just looking for a fling.
Talking about it in advance will help prevent uncomfortably unclear moments in the office.
If you don’t think it’s a good idea to date, say so.
If this is someone you work closely with, that fact is a good excuse that won’t sound so accusatory.
Something like “I don’t want this to get in the way of our professional relationship,” should get the point across.
If you don’t work closely together, you can be more direct, saying that you aren’t really interested.
If one of you left early, and you didn’t get a chance to talk, have a brief private meeting at the office.
You should always be respectful when talking to your partner.
About half of all women, and 20 percent of all men, will experience negative feelings about themselves after a one night stand, usually shame for what they did or like they’ve been used for sex.Avoid statements that can be misconstrued, like "I can't believe we did that," or "I've made a huge mistake."
Or, if it was at your place, that your co-worker gets all of her or her stuff.
You don’t want someone to have forgotten something, and need to go back later to pick it up.
It’s going to be awkward enough at work the next day, you don’t want to compound the embarrassment by having to see each other after work again.This also means not “accidentally” leaving something that you need to pick up later.
If you think you want your one night stand to turn into something more, that is not the way to go about it. , You want to minimize gossip, or at least avoid drawing attention to what happened.
Avoid carpooling or taking the same train into the office so that you can arrive at different times., What happened between the two of you should stay between the two of you.
Avoid broadcasting information about you and your partner, even to people you think you trust.
Gossip spreads quickly, and telling one person probably means the rest of the office will know shortly.
That means on social media too.
Businesses keep an eye on the kinds of things you post on social accounts, and it will be hard to keep people from prying if you are suddenly “In a relationship,” or “It’s complicated.” Hold off on announcing anything on those places until your relationship becomes serious. , If your boss learns about your hook-up, or confronts you about what happened, be honest.
He doesn’t need to know all the steamy details, but you shouldn’t lie about it.
Your relationship may or may not be a problem, depending on your office’s rules.
Lying about it, though, can cause problems for you and your co-worker, as well as cause your boss to lose trust in you.
If your other co-workers think they’ve figured it out, you don’t want to lie to them.
It will only make it worse if last night’s partner isn’t telling the same story.
Remember that you don’t have to tell them anything, and feel free to remind them that it’s none of their business. , Beyond not telling others, you don’t want to start sharing intimate or embarrassing details about your partner.
While it may feel fun or liberating to talk about her interesting birthmark, or his odd bedroom requests, consider how you would want to be treated.
Gossiping about your co-worker is unprofessional, and will make it difficult for the two of you to maintain a good working relationship.
And, you can be sure, your co-worker will learn it was you who told everyone., While it is going to be awkward at times, you need to try and act as if nothing happened.
Keep your regular routine and meetings, and don’t be afraid to steer any personal conversations back to work.
This also means not avoiding the person at well.
Awkwardly trying to prevent talking to the other person will probably draw attention to you, and make it harder to do your job.
Doing what you’re paid to do should be the priority for both of you at the office., Even if this time was a mistake, you want to be careful about getting a reputation as someone who sleeps around the office.
That sort of behavior will make it difficult for others to work with you, and can negatively affect your career.
Also, you will have a hard time being taken seriously by someone else in the office you might actually have an interest in., It can be easy to start a bond because of your shared experiences, including work projects, bad bosses, or any of the other things that take up your working hours.
If you decide you both decide you want this to be something more, though, that won’t be enough.
Look for things other than work that you can enjoy doing together., If you thought the morning after conversation was uncomfortable, this can be even more so.
Still, it is important that your personal relationship be disclosed to avoid trouble with company policy.
The most senior person, or the one who has been there the longest, should be the one to initiate the conversation with management., Let’s face it, most relationships don’t work.
Unfortunately, with office relationships, you have to continue seeing and working with the person even after it’s ended.
While you may be able to stay friendly with one another, it may end up being too much.
Make sure you have some idea of what you might do if the relationship goes south.
That could mean moving within the company, or taking a new job altogether.
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