How to Date a Bisexual Person
Know that many bisexual people will not prefer one sex over another., Respect the bisexuality of the person you're dating as part of his or her identity., Know that bisexuals aren't "in transition.", Realize that bisexuals aren't promiscuous...
Step-by-Step Guide
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Step 1: Know that many bisexual people will not prefer one sex over another.
Many bisexuals, even those who eventually marry, may change their preferences depending on how they feel.
When entering into a serious relationship with a bisexual person, be prepared to accept their attraction to a person of another sex—the same way straight or gay people are attracted to members of one sex.
Remember that if this person is dating you in the first place, it is because they are attracted to you as an individual.
Even though bisexual people are attracted to two sexes, this doesn't mean they are attracted to everyone.
They have limits and standards, just like everyone else does.
By the same token, do not ask your partner if they "prefer sex with men or women." If you are in a relationship with them, you must always assume that they prefer you. -
Step 2: Respect the bisexuality of the person you're dating as part of his or her identity.
Most bisexual people consider themselves to always be bisexual, no matter who they are dating at the time.
Do not suggest that they are heterosexual if they are in a relationship with a person of the opposite sex, or that they are homosexual if they are in a same-sex relationship.
As such, do not ask your partner if he or she is attracted to each person that they meet.
Instead, accept them as they are if you wish to retain your relationship with them.
Some people differentiate between their orientation and their behavior.
Their orientation is bisexual, but their behavior (at least currently) is straight or gay.
This is normal and all a part of the spectrum. , Not so long ago, being gay was flat out unacceptable.
As a result, many homosexuals eased the coming out process by proclaiming themselves as bisexual and sort of getting their feet wet.
It sort of ruined everything for those who were actually bisexual, turning Bitown into a pit stop to Gayville.
But that's not how it is.
Sure, some people may transition that way, slowly realizing (or letting themselves realize) they're gay—but others are aware of themselves and know that they're bisexual without question.
It's perfectly normal to worry that your partner will eventually "turn" gay or "turn" straight.
While it's feasible, don't think it's likely.
Either way, right now they're into you, and that's all that matters. , They are just like everyone else.
The gay community (and bisexuals getting lumped into that) gets a bad rap for being particularly oversexed.
A lot of that is true; there are a lot of homosexuals and bisexuals having tons of casual sex.
However, there are lots of straight people having casual sex all over the place as well.
It has less to do with the orientation of the person and much more to do with their character.
Bisexuals are not any more or less likely to be monogamous than anyone else.
For a long time, many gay and bisexual people couldn't act on their feelings, or society would reject them.
Now that society is becoming more tolerant, some people may try to make up for all that "lost time" once they come out of the closet.
After all, a whole new world opened up to them.
Wouldn't you take advantage of it too? So while promiscuity has nothing to do with orientation, it may have something to do with being held back for so long.
If he or she is a cheater, they're a cheater regardless of their sexuality.
A person of good, upstanding character won't cheat, whether they're bisexual, homosexual, or heterosexual., Many believe that bisexuals are just having their cake and eating it too, aren't really self-aware, or are immature and selfish and therefore can't be trusted.
None of these are true.
Bisexuals made the same choice that heterosexuals made.
That is, they didn't make one.
They just happen to be attracted to both sexes.
The idea that someone's sexual orientation determines their character is archaic.
While many gays do tend to use their sexual orientation to identify themselves and grow their character, that's more of a poor reflection of society than it is a statement on the nature of sexuality.
While liking men or women or both is a part of you, it's just a big a part as having brown hair or two arms.
Big deal, right? It's just a question of preference, some prefer sweet, some prefer savoury, some like it hot, some prefer cold, some like men, some like women, some like both.
It's really nothing to get hung up about.
Focus on what you like about your partner and what they enjoy about your company. , Persons who are considered to be bisexual are attracted to two sexes, but this doesn't mean that they feel the need to be with a man and a woman at the same time.
Just like straight or gay people, the vast majority of bisexual men and women will want a monogamous relationship.
When it comes to marriage, a bisexual person may end up with a partner of either gender.
If a woman marries a man it does not mean that she is straight, and by the same token, marrying a woman will not make her gay.
The person that they marry will be the one they are in love with as a person, and may or may not have anything to do with gender. -
Step 3: Know that bisexuals aren't "in transition."
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Step 4: Realize that bisexuals aren't promiscuous.
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Step 5: Understand that bisexuals aren't indecisive
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Step 6: untrustworthy
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Step 7: or confused.
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Step 8: Know that they're just as likely to be monogamous.
Detailed Guide
Many bisexuals, even those who eventually marry, may change their preferences depending on how they feel.
When entering into a serious relationship with a bisexual person, be prepared to accept their attraction to a person of another sex—the same way straight or gay people are attracted to members of one sex.
Remember that if this person is dating you in the first place, it is because they are attracted to you as an individual.
Even though bisexual people are attracted to two sexes, this doesn't mean they are attracted to everyone.
They have limits and standards, just like everyone else does.
By the same token, do not ask your partner if they "prefer sex with men or women." If you are in a relationship with them, you must always assume that they prefer you.
Most bisexual people consider themselves to always be bisexual, no matter who they are dating at the time.
Do not suggest that they are heterosexual if they are in a relationship with a person of the opposite sex, or that they are homosexual if they are in a same-sex relationship.
As such, do not ask your partner if he or she is attracted to each person that they meet.
Instead, accept them as they are if you wish to retain your relationship with them.
Some people differentiate between their orientation and their behavior.
Their orientation is bisexual, but their behavior (at least currently) is straight or gay.
This is normal and all a part of the spectrum. , Not so long ago, being gay was flat out unacceptable.
As a result, many homosexuals eased the coming out process by proclaiming themselves as bisexual and sort of getting their feet wet.
It sort of ruined everything for those who were actually bisexual, turning Bitown into a pit stop to Gayville.
But that's not how it is.
Sure, some people may transition that way, slowly realizing (or letting themselves realize) they're gay—but others are aware of themselves and know that they're bisexual without question.
It's perfectly normal to worry that your partner will eventually "turn" gay or "turn" straight.
While it's feasible, don't think it's likely.
Either way, right now they're into you, and that's all that matters. , They are just like everyone else.
The gay community (and bisexuals getting lumped into that) gets a bad rap for being particularly oversexed.
A lot of that is true; there are a lot of homosexuals and bisexuals having tons of casual sex.
However, there are lots of straight people having casual sex all over the place as well.
It has less to do with the orientation of the person and much more to do with their character.
Bisexuals are not any more or less likely to be monogamous than anyone else.
For a long time, many gay and bisexual people couldn't act on their feelings, or society would reject them.
Now that society is becoming more tolerant, some people may try to make up for all that "lost time" once they come out of the closet.
After all, a whole new world opened up to them.
Wouldn't you take advantage of it too? So while promiscuity has nothing to do with orientation, it may have something to do with being held back for so long.
If he or she is a cheater, they're a cheater regardless of their sexuality.
A person of good, upstanding character won't cheat, whether they're bisexual, homosexual, or heterosexual., Many believe that bisexuals are just having their cake and eating it too, aren't really self-aware, or are immature and selfish and therefore can't be trusted.
None of these are true.
Bisexuals made the same choice that heterosexuals made.
That is, they didn't make one.
They just happen to be attracted to both sexes.
The idea that someone's sexual orientation determines their character is archaic.
While many gays do tend to use their sexual orientation to identify themselves and grow their character, that's more of a poor reflection of society than it is a statement on the nature of sexuality.
While liking men or women or both is a part of you, it's just a big a part as having brown hair or two arms.
Big deal, right? It's just a question of preference, some prefer sweet, some prefer savoury, some like it hot, some prefer cold, some like men, some like women, some like both.
It's really nothing to get hung up about.
Focus on what you like about your partner and what they enjoy about your company. , Persons who are considered to be bisexual are attracted to two sexes, but this doesn't mean that they feel the need to be with a man and a woman at the same time.
Just like straight or gay people, the vast majority of bisexual men and women will want a monogamous relationship.
When it comes to marriage, a bisexual person may end up with a partner of either gender.
If a woman marries a man it does not mean that she is straight, and by the same token, marrying a woman will not make her gay.
The person that they marry will be the one they are in love with as a person, and may or may not have anything to do with gender.
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