How to Deal With Your Crush's Death
Accept the fact that your crush is gone., Go ahead and grieve, shed your tears, and let the pain wash over and through you., Put your thoughts down in a journal or diary., Find out if there is an online page dedicated to the person who has died...
Step-by-Step Guide
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Step 1: Accept the fact that your crush is gone.
This may be the most difficult part, especially if you had deep feelings for that person, and you never had an opportunity to share those feelings. -
Step 2: Go ahead and grieve
This is difficult, but it is an unavoidable part of the process.
The depth of the hurt reflects the depth of your humanity, and your love for the one who has died. , List each thought you have about the person, and after you have written it down, think about it, even immerse yourself into it.
Until you do this, you will not be able to get past it toward acceptance and peace. , Often there will be memorial pages, with blogs or links so you can write your feelings for the world to share anonymously.
If there is not, you can begin one. , Seal it in a plain envelope with no name or address, and put it in a safe place.
This will verbalize your feelings, and make them a permanent part of your own history and memories. , If your feelings are too personal or you think it would be embarrassing, you can talk in general terms about it, but you need to share what you are feeling, and receive support from people who care about you. , Drop some flowers there, or something you believe they would like, sit and let another flood of tears flow over you if you need to, then walk away with the knowledge that you are beyond the place where you can give them any more. , Do not let depression become a prison for you.
It is normal to feel depressed for a time, and the feelings of grief and regret will continue to come around for a long time, even the rest of your life, but again, that is just a reminder of your own humanity, and your care for another person. , Return to school, and other activities you are expected to be involved in.
It may seem hard to do at first, but being engaged in something challenging, productive, and familiar will allow you to focus on things at hand, and not your regrets. , There are counselors and other professionals who can offer help in healing from your loss if it is too much for you. -
Step 3: shed your tears
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Step 4: and let the pain wash over and through you.
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Step 5: Put your thoughts down in a journal or diary.
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Step 6: Find out if there is an online page dedicated to the person who has died.
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Step 7: Write a letter to the person
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Step 8: tell them everything you ever felt about them
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Step 9: and how it feels to lose them.
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Step 10: Talk to your friends about what you feel.
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Step 11: Go and pay your last respects
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Step 12: either at the funeral
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Step 13: or if you cannot deal with that level of emotion
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Step 14: to a place you associate with the person.
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Step 15: Tell your parents
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Step 16: a very close friend
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Step 17: or a pastor if you belong to a church about your hurt.
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Step 18: Get back into life.
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Step 19: Tell your parents if you feel at the least like you just can't deal with this on your own.
Detailed Guide
This may be the most difficult part, especially if you had deep feelings for that person, and you never had an opportunity to share those feelings.
This is difficult, but it is an unavoidable part of the process.
The depth of the hurt reflects the depth of your humanity, and your love for the one who has died. , List each thought you have about the person, and after you have written it down, think about it, even immerse yourself into it.
Until you do this, you will not be able to get past it toward acceptance and peace. , Often there will be memorial pages, with blogs or links so you can write your feelings for the world to share anonymously.
If there is not, you can begin one. , Seal it in a plain envelope with no name or address, and put it in a safe place.
This will verbalize your feelings, and make them a permanent part of your own history and memories. , If your feelings are too personal or you think it would be embarrassing, you can talk in general terms about it, but you need to share what you are feeling, and receive support from people who care about you. , Drop some flowers there, or something you believe they would like, sit and let another flood of tears flow over you if you need to, then walk away with the knowledge that you are beyond the place where you can give them any more. , Do not let depression become a prison for you.
It is normal to feel depressed for a time, and the feelings of grief and regret will continue to come around for a long time, even the rest of your life, but again, that is just a reminder of your own humanity, and your care for another person. , Return to school, and other activities you are expected to be involved in.
It may seem hard to do at first, but being engaged in something challenging, productive, and familiar will allow you to focus on things at hand, and not your regrets. , There are counselors and other professionals who can offer help in healing from your loss if it is too much for you.
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