How to Role Play With Your Lover or Spouse

Step-by-Step Guide

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   Step 1: Share your erotic fantasies with your partner.

   Try lying in bed one night and ask your partner to share one of their sexual fantasies with you.
   
   Then, you can share yours.
   
   This is an excellent way to broach the subject of role playing and can be a sexy experience for both of you.If the thought of mentioning role playing to your partner in a face-to-face conversation is completely terrifying, then send your lover an email or text that details your erotic fantasy.
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   Step 2: Pretend you have never met before.

   If this is your first time role playing with your partner, it is a good idea to keep it simple.
   
   Do not choose an elaborate role that requires a lot of “acting.” Instead, you could pretend that you are strangers who are meeting for the first time.
   
   Meet at a restaurant for dinner and then head to a hotel afterwards for a night of role playing fun!, Choose roles that allow you to incorporate different power dynamics.
   
   This type of sexual role play is a common turn on for many people.
   
   For example, you could try Professor/Student, Doctor/Patient, or Police Officer/Criminal roles.
   
   In these types of scenarios you can incorporate mild punishment for any "naughty" behaviour., Some people like to borrow ideas from their favourite fiction or television shows.
   
   These roles often require more elaborate costumes, but can be a lot of fun to play around with.
   
   Try acting out a sexy scene from Game of Thrones, or create your own erotic spin on stories like Harry Potter, Twilight, or any superhero movie. , Once you have decided on the roles you want to play, it is important that you and your partner discuss exactly what it is about this scenario that turns you both on.
   
   This will help to ensure that the fantasy plays out the way you want.
   
   For instance, a lot of people may have a student/teacher fantasy, but some people may be into a punishment scenario that involves rulers and spankings, while other people might be into plaid skirts and forbidden affairs., Before you and your partner get lost in character, it is important that you both know what you are comfortable doing.
   
   This is especially true if you are playing with a punishment scenario.
   
   For example, you may find that a light spank turns you on, but choking is off the table.
   
   Alternatively, anal sex or certain sex toys may be off limits for you.Have an open and honest conversation with your partner.
   
   If you are shy about discussing these details in person, you could establish the rules electronically via email or text. , In order to ensure, that things don’t get carried away while role playing, you and your lover should establish a safe word prior to beginning.
   
   When this word is spoken it will bring the role play to a halt and signals that someone is uncomfortable with the situation.
   
   Choose a word that is not likely to come up naturally during the role play scenario., Costumes can make it easier for you to get into character and may make your role play more authentic.
   
   Depending on the type of role play you will be engaging in, your costumes could range from sexy lingerie to more elaborate doctor and nurse outfits.It is best to keep it simple in the beginning.
   
   For example, you could wear a wig, or experiment with your make-up.
   
   Alternatively, you could grow or shave your facial hair, or wear an outfit that is not your traditional style.
   
   A small physical change can make you feel like someone different and will help you get lost in your character. , Certain props can also help you get into character while acting out your role.
   
   For instance, if you are pretending to go to a massage parlour, you could try lighting candles and playing soothing music.
   
   Alternatively, if you want to act out a police officer fantasy, you could use a pair of handcuffs. , The location can also help to set the mood.
   
   Try booking a hotel room for the night if you want to pretend that you and your partner are complete strangers just meeting for the first time.
   
   You may also feel more comfortable acting out a role if you are not in a familiar place.
   
   Alternatively, if you are trying a more elaborate role, you may want to use your own home so that you can decorate or include props to help set the scene. , Remember, no one is judging your acting.
   
   You are likely going to be nervous in the beginning.
   
   Don’t put too much pressure on yourself.
   
   Try and stick with a role that you are familiar with so that the dialogue will come easily.
   
   For example, if you have worked as a nurse in the past, you may feel more comfortable role playing as a health care professional.If you are confident in your acting ability, you could try a more elaborate role and talk with an accent. , When role playing for the first time, you are apt to break character and laugh a few times.
   
   This is okay and you should not let one slip up ruin the experience.
   
   Instead, laugh a little and then continue with the scenario.
   
   This nervous laughter will likely go away quite quickly., You will likely find that with role playing the planning and anticipation can be just as sexy as the actual event.
   
   Enjoy the process and take things slowly.
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   Step 3: Play with power dynamics.

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   Step 4: Choose roles based on your favourite characters.

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   Step 5: Discuss why this role turns you on.

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   Step 6: Set your limits.

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   Step 7: Establish a safe word.

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   Step 8: Try costumes.

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   Step 9: Add props.

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    Step 10: Pick a suitable location.

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    Step 11: Don’t put too much pressure on your acting.

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    Step 12: Acknowledge awkward moments and move on.

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    Step 13: Take it slow and don’t rush.

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