How to Safely Meet a Guy Through Internet Dating
Find a dating site., Remember that most of the sites will offer you a free trial period., Register with honest information about yourself., Remember never to give out personal information., Make sure that when you connect with someone to keep the...
Step-by-Step Guide
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Step 1: Find a dating site.
There are many out there, with more new ones starting up often.
Find a site that is reputable.
Stay away from the sleazy sites.
It would be good to find a site that specializes in your interests such as gay dating, black dating, and even specialized religious sites. -
Step 2: Remember that most of the sites will offer you a free trial period.
If they ask for your credit card, be assured they will charge you after that trial period 'unless' you make sure you cancel prior to that date (see tip below). , Do not lie about your weight and interests, or show a photo of you when you were much younger.
After all, the idea of Internet dating is to actually meet in person eventually. , No telephone number, no address, no last name.
If things go well, you can do this later. , Create a new email address for yourself to use only for dating sites.
Do not give out your personal Internet address. , With practice, you can tell a lot about the other person from how he responds to questions, and what he says on email. , Call him, but make sure you use the phone blocker if you use your home phone.
If you have a cell phone, use that! If he refuses to give you his phone number, be wary.
He may be married or have ulterior motives, but he may be just as wary as you are.
Instead of talking on the phone, suggest a meeting in a neutral place. (see below) , Most of the time, men with web cams want to show themselves naked.
This is a great big "Red Flag". , This is a "Red Flag". , Don't be put off if he asks to meet you.
Ask him where he would like to meet.
Be wary if he suggests meeting at his place or yours.
This is another Red Flag; stop communicating with him immediately.
Always meet in a public, neutral place, preferably during the day. , Only after you have gotten to know him well and feel safe around him should you invite him over dinner, etc.
Also tell a friend or family member that you are meeting someone for the first time, where you're meeting, and what his name is.
Also give them his phone number if you have it. -
Step 3: Register with honest information about yourself.
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Step 4: Remember never to give out personal information.
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Step 5: Make sure that when you connect with someone to keep the conversation on email for awhile.
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Step 6: Try to find out as much as possible about the other person
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Step 7: via email
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Step 8: so you can get a sense of what he is like.
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Step 9: Do not give out your phone number; instead
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Step 10: ask for his.
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Step 11: Be wary if he asks if you have a web cam.
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Step 12: When you talk to him on the telephone
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Step 13: after a bit of chit chat
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Step 14: he suddenly starts talking about sexual things
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Step 15: or asks you what you are wearing
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Step 16: hang up.
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Step 17: Some people don't like to chit-chat over email for long periods of time or give out their phone numbers.
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Step 18: When meeting him for the first time be sure to choose a public location
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Step 19: where there are plenty of people around
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Step 20: such as a restaurant or cafe near a busy street.
Detailed Guide
There are many out there, with more new ones starting up often.
Find a site that is reputable.
Stay away from the sleazy sites.
It would be good to find a site that specializes in your interests such as gay dating, black dating, and even specialized religious sites.
If they ask for your credit card, be assured they will charge you after that trial period 'unless' you make sure you cancel prior to that date (see tip below). , Do not lie about your weight and interests, or show a photo of you when you were much younger.
After all, the idea of Internet dating is to actually meet in person eventually. , No telephone number, no address, no last name.
If things go well, you can do this later. , Create a new email address for yourself to use only for dating sites.
Do not give out your personal Internet address. , With practice, you can tell a lot about the other person from how he responds to questions, and what he says on email. , Call him, but make sure you use the phone blocker if you use your home phone.
If you have a cell phone, use that! If he refuses to give you his phone number, be wary.
He may be married or have ulterior motives, but he may be just as wary as you are.
Instead of talking on the phone, suggest a meeting in a neutral place. (see below) , Most of the time, men with web cams want to show themselves naked.
This is a great big "Red Flag". , This is a "Red Flag". , Don't be put off if he asks to meet you.
Ask him where he would like to meet.
Be wary if he suggests meeting at his place or yours.
This is another Red Flag; stop communicating with him immediately.
Always meet in a public, neutral place, preferably during the day. , Only after you have gotten to know him well and feel safe around him should you invite him over dinner, etc.
Also tell a friend or family member that you are meeting someone for the first time, where you're meeting, and what his name is.
Also give them his phone number if you have it.
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