How to Turn On Your Boyfriend

Wear perfume., Use body language., Whisper something in his ear., Let him see just a bit of your underwear., Show him that you're turned on., Bite your lip while you're having a conversation., Touch him., Give him a massage., Dance (this isn't as...

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Step-by-Step Guide

  1. Step 1: Wear perfume.

    This is a good basic way to turn a guy on.

    You can kind of tailor your scent choice to something you know he'd like but it's always better to err on the musky side, as this most closely resembles the scents associated with sex.

    Avoid strong perfumes and perfumes with an "old lady" scent.

    Make sure you apply the perfume correctly.
  2. Step 2: Use body language.

    Use your body language to put ideas in his head.

    Sensually lick an ice cream while you're out on a date.

    Run your hand up and down the top of your thigh while you're sitting together on the couch.

    Lean in close to talk to him.

    Bend over dramatically to pick something up off the ground.

    There are lots of ways to make him start thinking sexual thoughts, so just take advantage of whatever situation you find yourself in. , It should be a little flirty, a little dirty, and a whole lot of tempting.

    The husky voice and the closeness of your lips as you whisper something slowly, and sensually will have him begging to take you to bed. "So now what do you want to do?"

    "You are such a tease."

    "What do you want me to do to you?"

    etc.

    You get the gist. , Step 1, wear brightly colored underwear that are not granny-panties; Step 2, have just a bit of it peek out over the top of your jeans when you bend over; Step 3, profit.

    Or he'll profit.

    It's mutual profit. , If he knows you're turned on, that's going to turn him on more than anything else.

    If he touches you in just the right way or says something that drives you wild, tell him.

    You can also send him texts or let him know in other ways as well.

    Try, "God, I want you right now." or "I cannot stop thinking about what I want you to do to me."

    Congratulations: now he's thinking about your lips.

    It's as easy as that.

    Just a little bit of this paired with looking up at him through your lashes will tell him you're about ready to devour him, you're just to polite to say it. , Whether it's a light touch on the arm, or running your hand up and down his thigh while you're watching that movie on the couch, you're going to make him want you touching him all over his body before you know it.

    Just remember to use light touches and firm touches appropriately and try to stick to sensitive areas (back of the neck, jawline, arms, upper chest, lower back, etc). , Tell him to take off his shirt, oil him up, and start rubbing.

    Wear as little clothing yourself as you rub.

    A massage will get the blood flowing and between your hands being all over him and everything already being so...slippery....he's just not going to be able to help himself. , Guys get really turned on when girls are spontaneous, confident, and do things that are unexpected.

    You don't have to go out dancing, but put on some music and home, grab him and make him slow dance with you, and then just move your body in as basic a way as you can handle.

    Move in ways that feel natural and give you the opportunity to rub against him.

    Believe us, it'll be enough. , Taking charge of the situation will really turn him on.

    Take his hands and place them on your bum as you give him an alluring look or whisper something in his ear.

    Putting his hands where you want them to go tells him that you're turned on and you want him: something he'll find very sexy. , A little nibble on the ear, a long lick down his neck: show him that you want to just eat him up.

    The sensations will turn him on and get him thinking about where else he'd like you to be licking and tasting. , This can be a huge turn-on.

    Once you've got his shirt off and you're kissing his chest, for example, lick a long line with your tongue and then blow on it.

    The heat followed by the cold will give his body a lot of sensation to focus on and will really rev up his engines.

    Don't forget the oldie but goldie ice cube! , You don't need to have skills that rival the girls in that club downtown.

    Just a little sexy music (try CéU's "Cangote") and some body movement as you slowly remove your clothing will drive him up the wall. , This can be fun for everyone and will help you let loose and both get a little more out of your physical relationship.

    Give him the chance to choose a fantasy to play out or surprise him with a fully prepared scenario, costumes and all.

    Try to choose something that appeals to him.

    Comic books, movies, school-related fantasies, video games: you know your man best. , A little kink never hurt anyone: as long as they remember their safe words! All joking aside, a little kink can really spice up a relationship and it doesn't have to get too weird.

    Only do things you're comfortable with and make sure that everyone is on the same page.

    Handcuffs, anyone? Letting him choose a kink he wants to explore can be a huge turn-on for him.

    Don't be judgmental and be open to what he wants to try; this will show him that he doesn't have to be ashamed or uncomfortable around you, which will really turn him on. , If all you're doing is missionary, he might end up getting a little bored.

    You might too for that matter! Turn each other on and add new life into your relationship by trying some new positions in bed.

    While there are obvious downsides to the 69, the 77 is nice and accessible and guys love it when a girl gets on top. , There's warm water and soap and everything is so slick and slippery...it's a great way to turn him on and try something new.

    Wash him, let him wash you, and see where things go from there. , Vibrators are not just the realm of lonely women and happy lesbians: sex toys are great for partners to use together.

    If you're new to using toys, get just a small, cordless vibrator (a really basic one, usually about the size of an egg).

    Run it around his testicles during intercourse and he'll just about explode.
  3. Step 3: Whisper something in his ear.

  4. Step 4: Let him see just a bit of your underwear.

  5. Step 5: Show him that you're turned on.

  6. Step 6: Bite your lip while you're having a conversation.

  7. Step 7: Touch him.

  8. Step 8: Give him a massage.

  9. Step 9: Dance (this isn't as hard as it sounds).

  10. Step 10: Put his hands where you want them to go.

  11. Step 11: Take a little bite.

  12. Step 12: Try temperature changes.

  13. Step 13: Strip.

  14. Step 14: Try a little role play.

  15. Step 15: Consider some kink.

  16. Step 16: Try new positions.

  17. Step 17: Take a shower together.

  18. Step 18: Introduce toys.

Detailed Guide

This is a good basic way to turn a guy on.

You can kind of tailor your scent choice to something you know he'd like but it's always better to err on the musky side, as this most closely resembles the scents associated with sex.

Avoid strong perfumes and perfumes with an "old lady" scent.

Make sure you apply the perfume correctly.

Use your body language to put ideas in his head.

Sensually lick an ice cream while you're out on a date.

Run your hand up and down the top of your thigh while you're sitting together on the couch.

Lean in close to talk to him.

Bend over dramatically to pick something up off the ground.

There are lots of ways to make him start thinking sexual thoughts, so just take advantage of whatever situation you find yourself in. , It should be a little flirty, a little dirty, and a whole lot of tempting.

The husky voice and the closeness of your lips as you whisper something slowly, and sensually will have him begging to take you to bed. "So now what do you want to do?"

"You are such a tease."

"What do you want me to do to you?"

etc.

You get the gist. , Step 1, wear brightly colored underwear that are not granny-panties; Step 2, have just a bit of it peek out over the top of your jeans when you bend over; Step 3, profit.

Or he'll profit.

It's mutual profit. , If he knows you're turned on, that's going to turn him on more than anything else.

If he touches you in just the right way or says something that drives you wild, tell him.

You can also send him texts or let him know in other ways as well.

Try, "God, I want you right now." or "I cannot stop thinking about what I want you to do to me."

Congratulations: now he's thinking about your lips.

It's as easy as that.

Just a little bit of this paired with looking up at him through your lashes will tell him you're about ready to devour him, you're just to polite to say it. , Whether it's a light touch on the arm, or running your hand up and down his thigh while you're watching that movie on the couch, you're going to make him want you touching him all over his body before you know it.

Just remember to use light touches and firm touches appropriately and try to stick to sensitive areas (back of the neck, jawline, arms, upper chest, lower back, etc). , Tell him to take off his shirt, oil him up, and start rubbing.

Wear as little clothing yourself as you rub.

A massage will get the blood flowing and between your hands being all over him and everything already being so...slippery....he's just not going to be able to help himself. , Guys get really turned on when girls are spontaneous, confident, and do things that are unexpected.

You don't have to go out dancing, but put on some music and home, grab him and make him slow dance with you, and then just move your body in as basic a way as you can handle.

Move in ways that feel natural and give you the opportunity to rub against him.

Believe us, it'll be enough. , Taking charge of the situation will really turn him on.

Take his hands and place them on your bum as you give him an alluring look or whisper something in his ear.

Putting his hands where you want them to go tells him that you're turned on and you want him: something he'll find very sexy. , A little nibble on the ear, a long lick down his neck: show him that you want to just eat him up.

The sensations will turn him on and get him thinking about where else he'd like you to be licking and tasting. , This can be a huge turn-on.

Once you've got his shirt off and you're kissing his chest, for example, lick a long line with your tongue and then blow on it.

The heat followed by the cold will give his body a lot of sensation to focus on and will really rev up his engines.

Don't forget the oldie but goldie ice cube! , You don't need to have skills that rival the girls in that club downtown.

Just a little sexy music (try CéU's "Cangote") and some body movement as you slowly remove your clothing will drive him up the wall. , This can be fun for everyone and will help you let loose and both get a little more out of your physical relationship.

Give him the chance to choose a fantasy to play out or surprise him with a fully prepared scenario, costumes and all.

Try to choose something that appeals to him.

Comic books, movies, school-related fantasies, video games: you know your man best. , A little kink never hurt anyone: as long as they remember their safe words! All joking aside, a little kink can really spice up a relationship and it doesn't have to get too weird.

Only do things you're comfortable with and make sure that everyone is on the same page.

Handcuffs, anyone? Letting him choose a kink he wants to explore can be a huge turn-on for him.

Don't be judgmental and be open to what he wants to try; this will show him that he doesn't have to be ashamed or uncomfortable around you, which will really turn him on. , If all you're doing is missionary, he might end up getting a little bored.

You might too for that matter! Turn each other on and add new life into your relationship by trying some new positions in bed.

While there are obvious downsides to the 69, the 77 is nice and accessible and guys love it when a girl gets on top. , There's warm water and soap and everything is so slick and slippery...it's a great way to turn him on and try something new.

Wash him, let him wash you, and see where things go from there. , Vibrators are not just the realm of lonely women and happy lesbians: sex toys are great for partners to use together.

If you're new to using toys, get just a small, cordless vibrator (a really basic one, usually about the size of an egg).

Run it around his testicles during intercourse and he'll just about explode.

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