How to Serve at a Dinner Party

Place easy, general dishes on the table for guests to help themselves to., Put complicated, delicate and artistic food on the plates in the kitchen., Decide on your serving order., Pass all dishes from the left., Keep the courses rolling., Amaze...

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Step-by-Step Guide

  1. Step 1: Place easy

    Steamed or roasted vegetables, rice, salad, potatoes, and condiments are some of the things you can usually leave in the middle of the table for guests to help themselves to.

    This isn't strictly necessary, though.

    If you prefer to keep things simple, you don't have to leave anything more than salt and pepper on the table.
  2. Step 2: general dishes on the table for guests to help themselves to.

    This is known as "plating-up." Don't expect guests to help themselves to food that requires assembly or is difficult to manage.

    The only way they'll get to see your creativity is if you put it out on the plate for them before you even get to the dinner table.

    Keep the rim of the plate clear of sauces, spills, anything; it frames the food. , Traditionally it was customary to serve women first (eldest to youngest), then the men (same order).

    You can do this if you want to keep with tradition and the occasion is quite formal.

    Otherwise, choose one end of the table and move around it in a clockwise fashion, regardless of the genders of your guests. , Guests and servers should pass dishes from left.

    The logic behind this is that most people are right-handed and this allows them them to serve themselves from the dish while it is being held by the passer.

    Nowadays it is less likely that the passer will continue to hold the dish, but will expect you to take it, so if you are left-handed, it won't be a problem.

    Place the dish down on your side plate to serve from it. , It isn't a good idea to make guests wait too long between courses.

    They'll get fidgety, anxious and gossipy about what you're doing. , Don't hesitate to tell them some interesting and brief details about the time-old recipe you've used and why the wine complements the meal so well.

    On the other hand, do not ever go into details about how the flesh portion of the meal was hunted/killed.

    This is bad taste and makes some guests very queasy.

    Leave it for discussion around the fireplace with a like-minded friend after dinner. , The host or hired help should clear no more than two plates at a time to avoid bumping guests and interfering with their eating.

    There is nothing more annoying than the server's elbows in your face when you're just about to take the next bite. , The place for scraping off the leftovers is the kitchen, not the dining table.

    Preferably the noises should not reach the guests but this is unrealistic for most homes.

    Just do it as quietly as possible and try not to clank, crack, break or drop the dishes.

    The last thing you need on top of anything else is a dropped plate to clean up. , This means all the dishes on the table, the condiments and the side plates.

    If you haven't already set out the dessert spoons, this is the time to do so. , Chocolates will have their own method of getting around the table; it has been suspected they have legs... , This is polite and also sensible, since you'll probably be busy anyway with host's duties. , Except for the most formal occasions, it's not unheard of to ask a close friend at the party to help you serve.

    Don't take advantage of the situation because that guest is there to enjoy himself too but don't hesitate to ask for a quick hand with a simple task that won't risk spills on their clothes.
  3. Step 3: Put complicated

  4. Step 4: delicate and artistic food on the plates in the kitchen.

  5. Step 5: Decide on your serving order.

  6. Step 6: Pass all dishes from the left.

  7. Step 7: Keep the courses rolling.

  8. Step 8: Amaze guests with your knowledge.

  9. Step 9: Clear only two plates at a time

  10. Step 10: from the right.

  11. Step 11: Clean plates out of sight.

  12. Step 12: Remove main course dishes before bringing out dessert.

  13. Step 13: Serve cream

  14. Step 14: dessert toppings and sugar from the left.

  15. Step 15: As the cook

  16. Step 16: or host

  17. Step 17: always serve yourself last.

  18. Step 18: Don't be afraid to ask for help.

Detailed Guide

Steamed or roasted vegetables, rice, salad, potatoes, and condiments are some of the things you can usually leave in the middle of the table for guests to help themselves to.

This isn't strictly necessary, though.

If you prefer to keep things simple, you don't have to leave anything more than salt and pepper on the table.

This is known as "plating-up." Don't expect guests to help themselves to food that requires assembly or is difficult to manage.

The only way they'll get to see your creativity is if you put it out on the plate for them before you even get to the dinner table.

Keep the rim of the plate clear of sauces, spills, anything; it frames the food. , Traditionally it was customary to serve women first (eldest to youngest), then the men (same order).

You can do this if you want to keep with tradition and the occasion is quite formal.

Otherwise, choose one end of the table and move around it in a clockwise fashion, regardless of the genders of your guests. , Guests and servers should pass dishes from left.

The logic behind this is that most people are right-handed and this allows them them to serve themselves from the dish while it is being held by the passer.

Nowadays it is less likely that the passer will continue to hold the dish, but will expect you to take it, so if you are left-handed, it won't be a problem.

Place the dish down on your side plate to serve from it. , It isn't a good idea to make guests wait too long between courses.

They'll get fidgety, anxious and gossipy about what you're doing. , Don't hesitate to tell them some interesting and brief details about the time-old recipe you've used and why the wine complements the meal so well.

On the other hand, do not ever go into details about how the flesh portion of the meal was hunted/killed.

This is bad taste and makes some guests very queasy.

Leave it for discussion around the fireplace with a like-minded friend after dinner. , The host or hired help should clear no more than two plates at a time to avoid bumping guests and interfering with their eating.

There is nothing more annoying than the server's elbows in your face when you're just about to take the next bite. , The place for scraping off the leftovers is the kitchen, not the dining table.

Preferably the noises should not reach the guests but this is unrealistic for most homes.

Just do it as quietly as possible and try not to clank, crack, break or drop the dishes.

The last thing you need on top of anything else is a dropped plate to clean up. , This means all the dishes on the table, the condiments and the side plates.

If you haven't already set out the dessert spoons, this is the time to do so. , Chocolates will have their own method of getting around the table; it has been suspected they have legs... , This is polite and also sensible, since you'll probably be busy anyway with host's duties. , Except for the most formal occasions, it's not unheard of to ask a close friend at the party to help you serve.

Don't take advantage of the situation because that guest is there to enjoy himself too but don't hesitate to ask for a quick hand with a simple task that won't risk spills on their clothes.

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