How to Understand the Struggles of Forming a Step Family
Think of the couple, yourself and your new partner, and your children, as two separate relationships, not as one new happy family., It is useful to remember that children have a lot of wishes that parents won't always be able to gratify., It's most...
Step-by-Step Guide
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Step 1: Think of the couple
That may be your wish, but most of the time your children won't feel the same way.
Children almost always wish that their own parents stayed in love. -
Step 2: yourself and your new partner
Sympathize with your children without sacrificing your own life because of their wishes. ,, Don't expect that because you've found a more suitable partner for yourself that your children will join you in your feelings.
They usually won't. , , They aren't the same thing. , The majority of people have ideas about raising kids that are awful or don't exist at all--most people are clueless about talking, emotions, behavior and children, but half of these people imagine that they're experts.
They usually fall into two groups: they either read about child development in some textbook and actually think this translates to the real family, or they were raised badly and think that everyone else's kids should be, too. , -
Step 3: and your children
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Step 4: as two separate relationships
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Step 5: not as one new happy family.
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Step 6: It is useful to remember that children have a lot of wishes that parents won't always be able to gratify.
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Step 7: It's most important not to expect that your love for your new spouse will be shared by your children.
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Step 8: Separate your new relationship from your parenting.
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Step 9: Ask yourself
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Step 10: "Is it more important to have a harmonious marriage
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Step 11: or to trash talk your spouse's children to her
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Step 12: or tell your sweetie that s/he is doing something wrong as a parent
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Step 13: even when he asks for your opinion?"
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Step 14: Decide if you want to love or to educate.
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Step 15: Remember that it's none of your business how your partner raises his or her children.
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Step 16: Know that some people actually do have a few constructive ideas for helping children grow up healthy and normal.
Detailed Guide
That may be your wish, but most of the time your children won't feel the same way.
Children almost always wish that their own parents stayed in love.
Sympathize with your children without sacrificing your own life because of their wishes. ,, Don't expect that because you've found a more suitable partner for yourself that your children will join you in your feelings.
They usually won't. , , They aren't the same thing. , The majority of people have ideas about raising kids that are awful or don't exist at all--most people are clueless about talking, emotions, behavior and children, but half of these people imagine that they're experts.
They usually fall into two groups: they either read about child development in some textbook and actually think this translates to the real family, or they were raised badly and think that everyone else's kids should be, too. ,
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