How to Manage Stress in a Fraternity/Sorority

Step-by-Step Guide

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   Step 1: Make friends!

   Don't put on airs/or be sarcastic or bitter.
   
   Be calm and pleasant. "Get the run of the place!" Instead of running from them:
   Say,"Good one! You know how to do it up right!"
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   Step 2: Join them.

   Laugh a little! Say,"That's is why I l-o-v-e you guys! All this f-u-n!" Don't act bad or mad at their practical jokes or cut-downs. (Also, laugh at yourself when you make a mistake.) , Ask, "Who are we doing/joking next?" "Whose turn is it?" Say,"Let's plan something! I have some real good ideas!" (Then drop it.
   
   Don't get creepy, by blaming the wrong person! Act unaffected!) Ask, "What can we do for good-clean fun
   -- but nothing nasty!"
   
   Avoid threats of destruction or harm
   -- making it worse.
   
   Do not make veiled threats, such as: "I don't get mad; I get even!" or "Turnabout is fair-play!" or "Paybacks are heck!" Or, then they may do stuff and blame all of their tricks on you, if you make threats against everybody... , If you live in an apartment, go to your bedroom and listen to inspiring music, get absorbed in a TV show, use the extra energy to exercise or play video games to wind down.
   
   Do not go on Facebook or Myspace, unless you are just listening to music, playing games, or watching videos.
   
   Often fights and disputes can be continued on social networking sites. , Sometimes your re-acting/acting-out, showing anger or displaying hurt feelings will just be fun/and a challenge.
   
   Don't give an excuse to your roommates to stir it up even more. , Get some fresh air; go take a walk down the halls, or up and down stairways to cool off. , It may be calming to sit in/or drive your car or run, jog or walk off that energy.
   
   If you are in the dorms, exit your dorm.
   
   There are usually some activities and a reading/study area, a music listening room, TV viewing room, pool, bowling, game-room/pool tables and a snack bar in the campus student center. , Enjoy studying or browsing in the college library (find a place out of easy view), upstairs, in the math section or some place they won't go. , They may consider an apartment or roommate change or reevaluation if needed. ,,
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   Step 3: Turn the tables on them.

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   Step 4: Remain friendly with the jokers; it will confuse them

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   Step 5: as if you're being tricky (which you are).

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   Step 6: Try to get away from the situation

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   Step 7: if it's too crazy.

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   Step 8: Never take one upmanship or teasing personally or too seriously.

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   Step 9: If it is a more stressful situation

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    Step 10: take a few deep breaths

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    Step 11: counting up to ten then back down.

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    Step 12: If you feel like the situation is way to tense to handle inside the building

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    Step 13: exit the apartment building and go outside.

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    Step 14: Say I have to go

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    Step 15: but don't tell why or where.

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    Step 16: Discuss your problems with your landlord

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    Step 17: resident advisor (RA)

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    Step 18: counselor

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    Step 19: school nurse

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    Step 20: dean or school psychologist

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    Step 21: if you have chronic problems.

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    Step 22: Do other stress management techniques such as breathing

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    Step 23: visualization

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    Step 24: If you suspect the stress might be causing (caused by) some personality difficulty (shyness or bragging)

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    Step 25: disability or illness

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    Step 26: make an appointment with your doctor or psychologist or go talk to your college disability services to get some modifications or advice.

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