How to Politely Turn Down a Guy

Step-by-Step Guide

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   Step 1: Before you even say a word

   Be sure about your decision.
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   Step 2: think long and hard about why you don't want to date him/her.

   , "I'm sorry, but I don't think we're compatible," or "I don't feel there is potential for a relationship here," are answers that are far preferable to "I don't find you attractive," or "I feel that you are boring," which will unnecessarily hurt his/her feelings. , This may lead the person to believe that you would date them, so unfortunately they may pursue you even more. , If the person persists, be very clear that this is your decision, that you are moving on and that they should move on as well. , Beware though, that if you maintain the "friend" thing, he/she might not give up so easily.
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   Step 3: If you STILL want to say no

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   Step 4: thank this person (if you hung out together) for all the good times you had.

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   Step 5: Be clear about your decision

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   Step 6: but do not be bluntly honest about the reason.

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   Step 7: Do not say "I'm not ready for a relationship

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   Step 8: " or even "I already have a boyfriend/girlfriend

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   Step 9: You are not obligated to discuss or provide a lengthier explanation of why you do not want to date someone.

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    Step 10: If you already had a friendship

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    Step 11: you may ask if you can still be friends.

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