How to Feel Better After a Friendship Breakup
Feel the pain., Talk to someone., Let your tears out., Change your thinking., Appreciate what you had., Tell them goodbye., Pour your grief into a creative project., Eat well., Get enough rest., Get out and exercise.Exercise will keep you feeling...
Step-by-Step Guide
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Step 1: Feel the pain.
Sometimes, we think friendships aren't as important as other relationships, such as romantic ones or familial ones.
You may feel like you don't have the right to grieve when a friend drops out of your life.
Nonetheless, your friends are vital to your well-being, and you are friends with the people in your life for a reason.
When you lose one of those friends, you're going to need to grieve that person's lose in your life, just as if you'd broke up with a boyfriend or girlfriend.If you try to avoid the pain, you'll just hold on to it for much longer.
By acknowledging that you are sad, you can grieve and start the process of moving on. -
Step 2: Talk to someone.
Your other friends and your family are there to help you out.
When you're going to through a hard time, it's good to lean on your friends and family.
They can lend an ear to hear you out or just be a safe place where you can cry.
Don't be afraid to ask people for help.It can be helpful to talk to a therapist about the breakup, especially if the person has been your friend for a long time., It's a natural tendency to want to be strong and to not cry (too much).
However, crying is a natural release of emotion, and it's important to let yourself feel that emotion.
Yes, you eventually need to move on.
Right now, though, you're hurting, and crying is a part of releasing that hurt., You may find yourself thinking some irrational thoughts right now.
For instance, you might be saying to yourself, "I don't think I can live without this person in my life." or "I must have something wrong with me if my friend doesn't want to be friends with me anymore." The key is to change these statements in your head.
Tell yourself, "I can create a new life without this person.
I don't need her to go on living.
I do need food, water, and air, but I don't need one person." or "I don't have anything wrong with me.
We're just in different places."
Take a moment to think about the good the person brought into your life.
Consider the ways she made your life better, and think about the good memories you had together.
Despite what's happening now, recognizing that the person brought good into your life can help you to move on., You don't actually need to see the person again for this step, but you do need to find some way to say goodbye to the person to help yourself move on.
It will help give you the closure you need.One way you can do this step is to write a letter to the person.
You don't have to send it, just write it, telling the person all the things you left unsaid and saying goodbye.You can also have a conversation as if the person was there.
Say all the things aloud that you wanted to say to the person while you were still friends. , You don't have to be an artist to use art to help you heal.
Doing something creative helps channel your grief into something physical.
Try painting or drawing what you're feeling or even going to an art therapy class.
It doesn't have to be good art.
It simply has to be a representation of what you're feeling.Don't think too much about what you're going to paint or draw.
Just start doing it, letting your emotions take you where they will. , Make sure you are getting your fruits and veggies.
Also, make sure you are eating on a regular schedule.
Don't forget to include some healthy proteins, low-fat dairy, and whole grains.
Not eating healthy will just make you feel worse., Make sure you are getting enough sleep at night.
You should be getting at least 7 to 8 hours at night and even more if you're younger.
If you're not getting enough sleep, you're going to feel even more upset and anxious., It also releases endorphins, which naturally makes you feel better.Try for 150 minutes of aerobic exercise a week.
One way to get your exercise in is to take a walk at lunch.
The sunlight will also help boost your mood. , Alcohol may numb the pain for a moment, but it could lead to a longer addiction.
Plus, it doesn't allow you to face the pain like you need to do., If you love painting, spend time painting.
If you enjoy going to the movies, do that.
Go out with your other friends and enjoy the people who are still in your life., That is, if you have mutual friends, don't make them pick a side.
In fact, try not to say anything negative about the friend you broke up with around mutual friends.
It will only drive a wedge between you and your other friends., Now that you've had this experience, you can be clearer about what you want in a friend.
If you broke up with your friend because the relationship was bad for your mental well-being, consider the qualities that made it bad, and what would be better in new friends.For instance, maybe your friend wasn't trustworthy or didn't respect your boundaries.
When you're making new friends, you need to make sure you're not choosing people who are going to cause the same problems. , If you're going to make new friends, you need to put yourself out there.
Talk to people in the coffee shop.
Join local clubs that feature your hobbies.
Take a class at your local community college.
Try to meet new people everywhere you go.You can't just go to these events.
You have actually talk to people and try to get to know them. -
Step 3: Let your tears out.
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Step 4: Change your thinking.
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Step 5: Appreciate what you had.
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Step 6: Tell them goodbye.
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Step 7: Pour your grief into a creative project.
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Step 8: Eat well.
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Step 9: Get enough rest.
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Step 10: Get out and exercise.Exercise will keep you feeling better overall
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Step 11: and it will help keep your energy up.
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Step 12: Skip the alcohol.
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Step 13: Do things you enjoy.
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Step 14: Be kind to your other friends.
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Step 15: Determine what you want in new friends.
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Step 16: Make new friends.
Detailed Guide
Sometimes, we think friendships aren't as important as other relationships, such as romantic ones or familial ones.
You may feel like you don't have the right to grieve when a friend drops out of your life.
Nonetheless, your friends are vital to your well-being, and you are friends with the people in your life for a reason.
When you lose one of those friends, you're going to need to grieve that person's lose in your life, just as if you'd broke up with a boyfriend or girlfriend.If you try to avoid the pain, you'll just hold on to it for much longer.
By acknowledging that you are sad, you can grieve and start the process of moving on.
Your other friends and your family are there to help you out.
When you're going to through a hard time, it's good to lean on your friends and family.
They can lend an ear to hear you out or just be a safe place where you can cry.
Don't be afraid to ask people for help.It can be helpful to talk to a therapist about the breakup, especially if the person has been your friend for a long time., It's a natural tendency to want to be strong and to not cry (too much).
However, crying is a natural release of emotion, and it's important to let yourself feel that emotion.
Yes, you eventually need to move on.
Right now, though, you're hurting, and crying is a part of releasing that hurt., You may find yourself thinking some irrational thoughts right now.
For instance, you might be saying to yourself, "I don't think I can live without this person in my life." or "I must have something wrong with me if my friend doesn't want to be friends with me anymore." The key is to change these statements in your head.
Tell yourself, "I can create a new life without this person.
I don't need her to go on living.
I do need food, water, and air, but I don't need one person." or "I don't have anything wrong with me.
We're just in different places."
Take a moment to think about the good the person brought into your life.
Consider the ways she made your life better, and think about the good memories you had together.
Despite what's happening now, recognizing that the person brought good into your life can help you to move on., You don't actually need to see the person again for this step, but you do need to find some way to say goodbye to the person to help yourself move on.
It will help give you the closure you need.One way you can do this step is to write a letter to the person.
You don't have to send it, just write it, telling the person all the things you left unsaid and saying goodbye.You can also have a conversation as if the person was there.
Say all the things aloud that you wanted to say to the person while you were still friends. , You don't have to be an artist to use art to help you heal.
Doing something creative helps channel your grief into something physical.
Try painting or drawing what you're feeling or even going to an art therapy class.
It doesn't have to be good art.
It simply has to be a representation of what you're feeling.Don't think too much about what you're going to paint or draw.
Just start doing it, letting your emotions take you where they will. , Make sure you are getting your fruits and veggies.
Also, make sure you are eating on a regular schedule.
Don't forget to include some healthy proteins, low-fat dairy, and whole grains.
Not eating healthy will just make you feel worse., Make sure you are getting enough sleep at night.
You should be getting at least 7 to 8 hours at night and even more if you're younger.
If you're not getting enough sleep, you're going to feel even more upset and anxious., It also releases endorphins, which naturally makes you feel better.Try for 150 minutes of aerobic exercise a week.
One way to get your exercise in is to take a walk at lunch.
The sunlight will also help boost your mood. , Alcohol may numb the pain for a moment, but it could lead to a longer addiction.
Plus, it doesn't allow you to face the pain like you need to do., If you love painting, spend time painting.
If you enjoy going to the movies, do that.
Go out with your other friends and enjoy the people who are still in your life., That is, if you have mutual friends, don't make them pick a side.
In fact, try not to say anything negative about the friend you broke up with around mutual friends.
It will only drive a wedge between you and your other friends., Now that you've had this experience, you can be clearer about what you want in a friend.
If you broke up with your friend because the relationship was bad for your mental well-being, consider the qualities that made it bad, and what would be better in new friends.For instance, maybe your friend wasn't trustworthy or didn't respect your boundaries.
When you're making new friends, you need to make sure you're not choosing people who are going to cause the same problems. , If you're going to make new friends, you need to put yourself out there.
Talk to people in the coffee shop.
Join local clubs that feature your hobbies.
Take a class at your local community college.
Try to meet new people everywhere you go.You can't just go to these events.
You have actually talk to people and try to get to know them.
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