How to Know when to Kiss on a Date
Stare at the person's mouth., Touch them gently., See if they touch you back., Compliment the person., Watch their body language., Wait until the end., Pick somewhere private, but not too private., Watch for the linger., Look the person in the eye...
Step-by-Step Guide
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Step 1: Stare at the person's mouth.
While this might seem a little silly, spending some time looking at the person's mouth can indicate you want to kiss them.
Of course, you don't want to look at their mouth only, as gazing into their eyes is also romantic.
Nonetheless, looking down at various points can help indicate you want to kiss someone.You don't have to continuously stare at the person's mouth.
Short one to two second glances here and there should do. -
Step 2: Touch them gently.
That is, as you are talking to them, find ways to touch them.
This touch isn't necessarily a intimate touch.
Rather, touch their arm or their shoulder as you talk, or move closer to them so your legs are touching.
These small touches show you want to get closer., As you find ways to gently touch them throughout the date, see if they reciprocate.
If they're really interested, they may touch you back.
If they pull back, they may not be as interested.
Some people don't like to be touched, so you may need to be patient.
Wait until the person is ready and seems interested., Tell the person you like the way they smile or that you find their humor charming.
Everyone likes to hear nice things about themselves, and when you compliment someone, you're showing them you care.Try to give sincere, direct compliments.
In other words, really pay attention to the person and figure out what you like about them.
That way, you can give a compliment that's specific to the person.
For instance, saying "You look pretty," is fairly general.
Saying, "Your smile is so lovely.
It lights up the room," is much more specific. , If the person is biting their lip, they may want to kiss you.
Also, watch to see if they're staring at your lips like you've been staring at theirs.
That can indicate they want to kiss you, just like you were trying to indicate that to them.The other person may also play with their hair, hold your gaze, or even mimic your movements (subconsciously) as a sign they're interested in you. , Generally, if you're going to kiss someone on a date, you'll want to do it at the end.
This advice is particularly important if you are on a first date.
If you've had the whole date to get to know each other, it won't be as much like kissing a stranger.
Usually, a kiss acts as a goodbye., Often, people will be shy about kissing in front of other people.
That means you want a place that's a bit secluded, such as you or the other person's front porch.
However, make sure you don't drag the person off somewhere too private, as that can make the person nervous., If someone wants to kiss you but is too shy to ask about it, they'll likely spend some time lingering at the end of the date.
That is, when you're about to part ways, the person will hang around even after saying goodbye.
This lingering indicates that they likely want to kiss you., Now that you've found the perfect spot and time, take a moment just to look the person in the eye.
Gazing into someone's eyes can be quite intimate, as most people don't spend more than a few seconds looking into someone else's eyes.
Hold the person's gaze as you contemplate kissing them., Leaning in indicates you want to get more intimate.
When the right moment comes, lean in closer.
Most likely, the person will lean in towards you, too.
If the person doesn't want the same thing, they'll likely lean back., Consent is important, even when you're trying to kiss someone.
Consent just means you have the person's permission to do something like kiss, hold hands, or something even more intimate.
Asking if you can kiss someone doesn't need to break the moment.
Rather, it shows you respect the person enough to ask.You could say, "We've had a great night.
Do you mind if I kiss you?" This dialogue is particularly important when someone is shy. , Once you get a "yes," you can move in for the kiss.
Bring your face in closer, but let the other person come part way.
Even if they said yes, it's good to let them make part of the move, so you know for sure they want it.
You'll both need to tilt a bit so you don't bump noses, then move on with the kissing part.It helps to have your lips slightly parted and soft.
If you're too rigid, it won't be a great kiss. , That is, the person may like you a lot and may even want to kiss you, even if they turn away.
However, the person may not be ready to kiss you yet, so if you're turned away, don't take it too hard, especially if the person seems to want to go on another date. -
Step 3: See if they touch you back.
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Step 4: Compliment the person.
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Step 5: Watch their body language.
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Step 6: Wait until the end.
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Step 7: Pick somewhere private
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Step 8: but not too private.
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Step 9: Watch for the linger.
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Step 10: Look the person in the eye.
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Step 11: Lean in closer.
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Step 12: Ask if you can kiss them.
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Step 13: Move in for the kiss.
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Step 14: Remember rejection may not be about you.
Detailed Guide
While this might seem a little silly, spending some time looking at the person's mouth can indicate you want to kiss them.
Of course, you don't want to look at their mouth only, as gazing into their eyes is also romantic.
Nonetheless, looking down at various points can help indicate you want to kiss someone.You don't have to continuously stare at the person's mouth.
Short one to two second glances here and there should do.
That is, as you are talking to them, find ways to touch them.
This touch isn't necessarily a intimate touch.
Rather, touch their arm or their shoulder as you talk, or move closer to them so your legs are touching.
These small touches show you want to get closer., As you find ways to gently touch them throughout the date, see if they reciprocate.
If they're really interested, they may touch you back.
If they pull back, they may not be as interested.
Some people don't like to be touched, so you may need to be patient.
Wait until the person is ready and seems interested., Tell the person you like the way they smile or that you find their humor charming.
Everyone likes to hear nice things about themselves, and when you compliment someone, you're showing them you care.Try to give sincere, direct compliments.
In other words, really pay attention to the person and figure out what you like about them.
That way, you can give a compliment that's specific to the person.
For instance, saying "You look pretty," is fairly general.
Saying, "Your smile is so lovely.
It lights up the room," is much more specific. , If the person is biting their lip, they may want to kiss you.
Also, watch to see if they're staring at your lips like you've been staring at theirs.
That can indicate they want to kiss you, just like you were trying to indicate that to them.The other person may also play with their hair, hold your gaze, or even mimic your movements (subconsciously) as a sign they're interested in you. , Generally, if you're going to kiss someone on a date, you'll want to do it at the end.
This advice is particularly important if you are on a first date.
If you've had the whole date to get to know each other, it won't be as much like kissing a stranger.
Usually, a kiss acts as a goodbye., Often, people will be shy about kissing in front of other people.
That means you want a place that's a bit secluded, such as you or the other person's front porch.
However, make sure you don't drag the person off somewhere too private, as that can make the person nervous., If someone wants to kiss you but is too shy to ask about it, they'll likely spend some time lingering at the end of the date.
That is, when you're about to part ways, the person will hang around even after saying goodbye.
This lingering indicates that they likely want to kiss you., Now that you've found the perfect spot and time, take a moment just to look the person in the eye.
Gazing into someone's eyes can be quite intimate, as most people don't spend more than a few seconds looking into someone else's eyes.
Hold the person's gaze as you contemplate kissing them., Leaning in indicates you want to get more intimate.
When the right moment comes, lean in closer.
Most likely, the person will lean in towards you, too.
If the person doesn't want the same thing, they'll likely lean back., Consent is important, even when you're trying to kiss someone.
Consent just means you have the person's permission to do something like kiss, hold hands, or something even more intimate.
Asking if you can kiss someone doesn't need to break the moment.
Rather, it shows you respect the person enough to ask.You could say, "We've had a great night.
Do you mind if I kiss you?" This dialogue is particularly important when someone is shy. , Once you get a "yes," you can move in for the kiss.
Bring your face in closer, but let the other person come part way.
Even if they said yes, it's good to let them make part of the move, so you know for sure they want it.
You'll both need to tilt a bit so you don't bump noses, then move on with the kissing part.It helps to have your lips slightly parted and soft.
If you're too rigid, it won't be a great kiss. , That is, the person may like you a lot and may even want to kiss you, even if they turn away.
However, the person may not be ready to kiss you yet, so if you're turned away, don't take it too hard, especially if the person seems to want to go on another date.
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