How to Befriend a Shy Introvert
Do approach the shy introvert subtly and by yourself., Do speak quietly and gently., Do find and talk about shared interests or problems., Do most of the talking (but not too much)., Do keep your conversations and social encounters short and sweet...
Step-by-Step Guide
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Step 1: Do approach the shy introvert subtly and by yourself.
This is far more effective than in a mob of people where the shy person is socially overwhelmed. -
Step 2: Do speak quietly and gently.
This is more attractive, soothing and encouraging to the shy mind than loud, frenzied voices. , Introverts bond with others through intimate, personal or meaningful conversation. , Shy introverts can take a while to warm up to you.
Expect about 2–3 weeks. , Let them process you slowly. , Too much eye contact is seen to initiate the fear centers in the brain and the fight-or-flight response.
It’s intimidating.
The less you eye them like food, the more likely they’ll speak openly. , Let them be spontaneous and don’t ever plan them.
The shy introvert, ever aware, will wonder why you’re paying them so much attention, feeling suspicious, anxious and even paranoid of you. -
Step 3: Do find and talk about shared interests or problems.
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Step 4: Do most of the talking (but not too much).
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Step 5: Do keep your conversations and social encounters short and sweet Introverts need time to absorb you and your words
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Step 6: and their shy element causes them to cautiously evaluate you.
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Step 7: Do make minimal eye contact.
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Step 8: Do let your conversations come naturally.
Detailed Guide
This is far more effective than in a mob of people where the shy person is socially overwhelmed.
This is more attractive, soothing and encouraging to the shy mind than loud, frenzied voices. , Introverts bond with others through intimate, personal or meaningful conversation. , Shy introverts can take a while to warm up to you.
Expect about 2–3 weeks. , Let them process you slowly. , Too much eye contact is seen to initiate the fear centers in the brain and the fight-or-flight response.
It’s intimidating.
The less you eye them like food, the more likely they’ll speak openly. , Let them be spontaneous and don’t ever plan them.
The shy introvert, ever aware, will wonder why you’re paying them so much attention, feeling suspicious, anxious and even paranoid of you.
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