How to Have a Meaningful 1 on 1 Conversation

Step-by-Step Guide

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   Step 1: Choose whether you are up to having a conversation : take a moment to reflect whether you're really fully ready-physically

   Ideally if the other person starts off, and you are ready to respond, a meaningful conversation can ensue.
   
   If you're not sure, ask the other person. , If you do not, it's visible and felt.
   
   Unless a conversation adds positively to both parties, it's likely to be debilitating in some way. , Even advise given through a conversation is useful only if both parties see value in it. , Most dialogues (with no preformed strong opinions) would require a level of trust.
   
   If there is a lack of trust on either side, the first step would possibly be to build some trust.
   
   It can be built through the conversation itself and sometimes by being upfront and open about the level of trust.
   
   Unless you understand and put the problem on the table, the solution will not emerge. , The term conversation is misunderstood as speaking.
   
   Listening is the most important part of a conversation.
   
   Deep, empathetic listening can raise the quality of the 1-1 interaction immensely. , If fact, if you look back, some of the most meaningful and understanding conversations are characterized by the quality of silences in it. , Words, and more importantly, the tone and body language, can take away from the effectiveness of any face to face conversation.Pay attention to how you come across, watch yourselves speaking in front of the mirror.
   
   Or record yourself through a camera having a conversation and play it back--it's amazing what you'll see and hear. , People give you instant feedback through their body language, tone and voice.It is great feedback to work on yourselves and the conversation. ,
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   Step 2: mentally and emotionally.

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   Step 3: Determine whether the person you wish to have the conversation with is ready

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   Step 4: and on the topic you wish to converse on.

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   Step 5: Check whether you really care for the other person in context of the topic of conversation--as a boss

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   Step 6: a parent

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   Step 7: a friend or a partner.

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   Step 8: Be clear on the purpose--is it just a selfish purpose

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   Step 9: or a manipulative one

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    Step 10: or can it really be helpful to both parties.

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    Step 11: Check the level of trust between you.

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    Step 12: Listen.

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    Step 13: Learn to like silence as much as words.

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    Step 14: Measure the words you are using.

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    Step 15: Continuously watch for how the other person is reacting.

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    Step 16: Finally

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    Step 17: be true to yourself

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    Step 18: genuineness is the most powerful part of yourself you can bring to a conversation.

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